Coercion
When I was around 13 my stepdad, who adopted me when I was 2, began to feel me up before bedtime and anytime I told him I didn’t like it he told me that I had promised him this, even though I don’t remember doing so or having any idea. I didn’t really know anything about sex other than pregnancy and what parts men and women have. When I was 14 he finally started trying to do sexual things with me, making me promise sexual favors for things he would buy or do for me. I said yes because if I didn’t he would guilt trip me and make me feel bad and he would claim he felt unloved. I never liked any of it and this went on until I was 19 (2months from being 20) because he got me pregnant. I still live at home because he never allowed me to really get my license or have an actual job, so I have no way to leave. I was forced into keeping this child, and even though I love her so much I can’t stand him in our life. It’s really hard being a parent to her when I have days where being touched makes me shut down emotionally or mentally, and I can’t sleep because my dreams are usually about him trying to coerce me back into doing sexual favors. I never considered it rape since I had given my consent despite not wanting it.
I’m 21 now and my daughter is 1.
@queendomnex
I have tears rolling down my face just reading this and imagining your pain, it sucks whatever happened and no, you do not deserve any of it.
You were a child, you didn't understand and know, you didn't consent you were made to agree that is anything but consent dear, please if possible report this to someone, your stepdad is a horrible, class A shitty man and deserves the worst punishment ever.
I apologise for coming too direct but I literally would want to bash his head at this time.
I'm truly sorry for the pain you've endured, you don't deserve it at all and tbh no one does
It is terrible how douchebags like him roam around freely living their life after making someone else's hell
You're allowed to heal through the trauma you faced and you're allowed to start a new life for yourself with your daughter in a safe and happy place. Don't give up ever please, you are very strong and capable of giving yourself and your daughter all that you need and want. Please try to think of some back up options, move out of the hell hole, get a job or something, do everything you can but you have your life ahead of you and you can definitely heal and treat yourself way better. 7 cups is here for you too while you manage these difficult situations and overwhelming feelings, you're not alone. ❤️🥺
I didn’t log onto this app for a long time but thank you so much 🥺😭 this message made me tear up bc I’ve been gaslit into believing I can’t be mad about he did to me or anything
I actually recently left my house recently! It was a struggle but I’m finally away from him and on my way to a better life without him there
@queendomnex
I can understand that, happy that you felt heard and that you finally stepped out of that place
Wishing you all the best ❤️ Take care of yourself and your daughter
@queendomnex
Congrats to you for getting away from your stepdad. I'm sorry you had to endure all of his horrible inappropriate advances. He was supposed to protect you!
You are so brave,Im so impressed with your ability to get away from him.
Your a strong beautiful person and you deserve the best life has to offer you and your daughter.
From your postings I believe your stepdad groomed you and that's a really tough situation to deal with. I am a survivor of a groomer too. Just know your strong and already successful in getting away from him. Your doing a great job and your protecting your daughter too.
Best of luck ,
ABB 💜
