It's been rough

Dealing with trauma and forgiving someone or even ourselves for that matter, is indeed quite difficult, @PretzelDeer, good thing there's no timeline on healing, and we can be at our pace, as we push through every day, and brave through every night. 💛 I'm really proud of you for reaching out in 7 cups for support and company.

Let's continue taking it one day at a time, only this time~ together. We got this!

Dear pretzel

I'm so sorry your struggling. I get it. It's super difficult to forgive. I have been struggling with it for years. Some days are way harder than others.

Your not alone

Be good to yourself

Best always ABB 💜

No matter what… kind to yourself first. I hope you have peace even if you have still trauma from

your ex.

@PretzelDeer

Hi PretzelDeer,
I'm sorry that you have gone through trauma.
It's hard to go through something like this, especially from a person who we thought we were loved by and was going to give us care, kindness and love. Who we were supposed to be able to trust in protecting us, but in the end needed protection from.
It really sends our thoughts, emotions and feelings in a super fast roller coaster, because it's very hard to understand how a person who loves someone could do the things that they did.

After we're able to leave the relationship, we're left with the memories, the flashbacks and nightmares. And we go through emotional turmoil where we go through all kinds of thoughts that are filled with guilt, we might blame ourselves for things that happened that weren't our fault.
We see the world differently after abuse, the world is all of the sudden in black and white.
I understand how difficult it is to be affected by relationship abuse, it's an experience I wish no one would experience. I am sorry you had to go through all of that, you didn't deserve it.

What I learned is that, even though all the self help books say that we need to forgive the person who did us wrong, we really don't have to. You don't have to forgive him if you don't want to.
You might never forgive him, but there might also come a time where you might find yourself ready to forgive him. When I learned that, I got such a relief. Because I was told that I had to forgive my ex for what he did to me and it burdened me a lot. So I wanted to share this with you, so you know that you don't have to either.

Your healing will take time, allow yourself to actively work on it and show yourself the best kindness you can. You deserve good things Pretzel, you deserve to be happy and loved. Know that.
Talking always helps, it's good that you're expressing yourself, keep doing that :)

I wish you the best
<3

Hey sorry to hear that this is happening. I hope that you”re doing well. Remember to always put yourself first and take care of yourself. The best revenge is being happy after all. I hope that you can forget about your ex soon.