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Biggest Trigger

PestoPasta8973 May 8th, 2022

My biggest Trigger keeps getting pressed over and over again—I don't do well when people abruptly leave my life. It started when my best friend died when I was ten. Later, it became romantic interests, a former priest who moved away, loss of a job, etc...


Someone I truly care about runs hot and cold. Is just who he is, but his hangups are triggering mine. It's very difficult to not internalize when he goes cold and shuts me out. How do you all deal with your triggers?


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Optimisticempath May 18th, 2022

@PestoPasta8973

I can really relate with you it sucks to have someone walk on our triggers

Me so proud you wanting to work on your triggers

Do you think inner- self talk can help? You can process your previous experiences that stemmed your trigger, write about it or talk to someone about it and how it affected you

It's okay to cry also if you need to

Grief is very hard and you are allowed time to heal

Please be gentle with yourself you deserve time and self care ❤

With this person though, do you think it will help to talk to them directly ? Express your discomfort and how their hot and cold behaviour affects you deeply

Hopefully they understand and change their behaviour towards you, you really deserve to feel secure and stable in your relationships and with people around