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PestoPasta8973
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PathStep 23 Compassion hearts171 Forum posts48 Forum upvotes107 Current upvotes107 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2024 Member sinceDecember 1, 2019
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Interested in Hinduism
General Support / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 August 22nd, 2023
...See more Hey, everyone! I have struggled with religion and spirituality for quite some time now. The Episcopal Church is really all I've ever known and, unfortunately, has left a very bad taste in my mouth. (The Body and Blood of Christ don't sound quite as appetizing anymore.) Surprisingly, I have found many Episcopal priests (and one Catholic nun) to be a bit self-centered and cynical. Not all, but certainly some. There have been times I have reached out, only to receive the cold shoulder. Ignoring someone is one of the absolute worst things you can do to them. It means you're not granting the person the courtesy of being human. That isn't to say that cutting off ties isn't healthy if the person is being abusive, but it is cowardly and unprofessional for a religious leader to do instead of lending an ear to someone in need of help. I love how deeply spiritual the people I've met, who practice Hinduism, are. From what I know (which is very little), the bond is about a person's own connection with deities and the surrounding environment. If you practice this faith or have in the past, please share your experiences. I'd love to know more!
Thoughts on changing careers later in life?
35 & Over Community / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 April 13th, 2023
...See more Hello, I'm currently a funeral director, which has been great so far, but I'm not sure it's what I want to do forever. As a kid, I've always played music and really had a knack for it! I'm self-taught on a lot of instruments, but at the beginning of this year I decided I wanted to study cello in a non-degree program. It has been a great hobby so far and am in love with the instrument, but it got me thinking—what if I pursue this more seriously and okay professionally in an orchestra pit? It would be my dream job! Does anyone else here have any thoughts or experience with this? If so, please share your stories and/or advice!
Getting in touch with your "inner child"
Hobby Zone / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 January 3rd, 2023
...See more Hey, folks. When I was a youngster (about twenty years ago now), I used to play the guitar, trumpet, piano, and drums to escape the *** which was my teenage years. As I grew older, I became more interested in honing in on my social skills and career. The more I delve into this, the more I feel I'm losing my sense of self. I recently decided to take up the cello and, much to my relief, the stress all began to melt away as soon as I started to learn the instrument and make music—much like it did when I was younger. It will take a while before I reach any sort of performing level, but I'm hoping to pursue it more aggressively now in case I ever want a career change or a semi-pro hobby. What hobbies have you used (or could use) to get back in touch with your inner child?
Autism Spectrum Disorder
Disability Support / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 November 20th, 2022
...See more Hey, all: I have what was formerly referred to as Asperger's Syndrome. My intelligence is above average and I can pass as neurotypical, but I am still very much autistic. Lately, I have been trying to connect with a man who I love and who admitted that he has feelings for me, but he's married...and my boss. We ended up going out once and things went down hill from there because my guilt kicked in. His wife is an awesome person but she acts like an animal in captivity when he's around. His behavior is hot and cold around me, and others have told me that it sounds like an abusive relationship. I think my inability to read social skills is shielding me, but I still love the man and all I want is for him to be charming and kind to me like he was when we first met.
Oblivious
Relationship Stress / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 November 1st, 2022
...See more Hey, all: I have what is formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome, now known as "Autism Spectrum Disorder." Due to this, I have a very difficult time understanding social cues. There is a man who I am attracted to, who admittedly is also attracted to me, but we are unable to be together for various reasons. He's hot and cold a lot of the time and fairly inconsistent. He went from ignoring me to speaking to me again the other day by way of criticizing someone else within their earshot. In order to get my attention, he grabbed right above my elbow from behind and spoke directly into my ear. What was that all about?
Biggest Trigger
Trauma Support / by PestoPasta8973
Last post
 May 18th, 2022
...See more My biggest Trigger keeps getting pressed over and over again—I don't do well when people abruptly leave my life. It started when my best friend died when I was ten. Later, it became romantic interests, a former priest who moved away, loss of a job, etc... Someone I truly care about runs hot and cold. Is just who he is, but his hangups are triggering mine. It's very difficult to not internalize when he goes cold and shuts me out. How do you all deal with your triggers?
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