Not that bad

@QuickwittedLion4851

Sexual assault is a crime, and a very traumatic one at that. It doesnt surprise me at all to hear you say it hurts.

@DazeT wrote a wonderful post to you earlier, as it really sums it up:

‘It's not about what it could've been or what is couldn't have been, but about what happened. Being forced into a sexual act that you don't like, is horrible, it's bad, it's wrong

Please dont worsen what youve been through by feeling guilty about how its left you feeling.

@QuickwittedLion4851 I can relate. I can relate so much. Took me 10 years to accept it was sexual assault. 10 years of thinking I am stupid for feeling bad over what happened because "was nothing" "wasn't rape, so should be happy". People told me that. But they're wrong.

Sexual assault even if wasn't rape can be as traumatic, can damage and hurt and torment someone. Trauma is when you're unable to handle or process a terrible situation that happened to you, it doesn't have to be xyz to be trauma. Took me a decade to realize it, but I'm glad I did and you're not alone. It wasn't "only" sexual assault, it WAS sexual assault and you have a right to feel bad about it, you have a right to complain and be upset, if it allows you to slowly recover from it.

I wish I could go back to my older self and hug her and say "you didn't deserve it, you have a right to feel hurt and upset". But I can't, it's too long gone and I'm doing my best to believe this. So here you go, at least I can say it to you - *hugs you, if it's okay* You didn't deserve it, you have a right to feel hurt and upset. You're not alone. You're not the only one. Acknowledging the pain is first step to being able to recover from it, no matter how it happened. If it hurts you, it's for a reason

(I'm sorry if I sound a bit annoying)

@QuickwittedLion4851

I think this summs it up.