Trauma bonding
How did you let go of someone who caused you so much trauma but you couldn’t leave them at the same time ?
@blueComputer5032 are you safe right now?
@blueComputer5032
not sure if you talking about like a family' member or like a friend. we had a hard time letting go of family members who abused us. but it was like a tug a war for us we loved them wanted to be close to them. but on same hand we hated their actions and what they was doing to us. for use took getting help from a mental health place and taking back our life. the things they took from us. also our faith helped us too. 7 years ago after years of trying to let go of one who hurt me. we moved away from them. we be honest at first it was very hard but over time has gotten better. we still talk to dad and mom. but not to our brothers. big thing for us was after moving we began to see we was safe and free of the abuse.
hope you can let go of unhealthy relationships and be safe and free
I started writing down the bad things people have done or said. Once it's all on paper it's easier to dismiss them as unuseful people and therefore not worth thinking about. You are above them. Always remember that.
@LuckyDragon88
yes one of my councilors had us do that then burn the paper it all was written on did help. another' one she had us do was write a letter to ones who abused us and say what we like to say to them. but not mail it to them. some of my alters did that for them it was very healing.
@stormieandpaws
That's interesting. Sounds worth doing those things. Thanks for sharing.