People Pleasing Thought for the Day
Thought for analysis:
Be kind, but not if it's always masking your actual disposition.
That's most likely people pleasing, not kindness.
And it will prevent true connection.
Contact me, a listener @CaringCharlie Let's chat about it.
@CaringCharlie This is a real struggle, wanting to be a “good person”, versus taking care of yourself.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas It probably is the need to be validated by others because of our codependency vice how do we begin to love our selves first. I agree. It's a struggle.
Your username sums it up so real and clear . "How do we get back to find us"
@CaringCharlie Thank you. ❤️ Your the first person who’s really noticed my name and what it might mean. Often after trauma people talk about getting back to who they used to be in order to heal. But sometimes there wasn’t ever really a chance to be a you to begin with, because you’ve always just served some purpose. So you have to figure it out as an adult, what seems right, what feels comfortable for you. We might have to sift through people pleasing that we used at one time to survive without realizing it. We might wonder why when we please the people we care about we somehow still can’t feel real connection or care from others.
Thank you for this post.
Your response gives me pause for thought and even a possible healing point:
Is it possible to become a new version of ourselves we create knowing our damaged self is a part of our past that never leaves us, yet we have no choice but to accept it as our present?
Hence your user name.
Please contact me for a chat if you would. I'd love to learn more deeply from you about some lessons you've learned in your journey.
