How would you console someone who feels they are to blame for everything due to a really warped sense of self worth?
In the sense that they are prohibited to go out, but if they are allowed to be out, it means they have enough worth to exist within the outside world. So if something is scary or wrong and they weren't in a safe or accepting context, they hide with a very intense sense of shame and worthlessness.
I'm asking this way, but I feel like a part of me is inconsolable and I can't take care of them right now, since a specific thing draws them inwards. It was really new that they had safe spaces, or that they could be allowed out (last 1-3 years very gradually).
I'll keep calling them parts, sorry if anything, but I don't see how else to refer to them or think of them still
@ScaredLongNeckedFrend
I would say if you want to know the best way in how to help someone, the easiest way is to ask: "I'm not sure what to say/do, but I really want to help you feel better. Do you know how I can help you?
@professionalVision2624 I really should do that more in general, thank you.
I just felt like it was impossible to sense a lot of what was going on with them, except maybe a broad impression of upset/overwhelm and hiding. I think a space without irrational or rational stressors would've been good for them at that moment, but that'll have to wait again.
@ScaredLongNeckedFrend
Mhhhh tha'ts right, it's often about identifying our triggers and what makes us feel better. It's a great first step to regognice a problem or something we want to work towards. And helping other people is a act of strong virtue! <3 You should be proud
@professionalVision2624 oh I only meant another part of me by that, but I'll try to let go a bit and just help others more, thank you
@ScaredLongNeckedFrend
That sounds great! <3
I wish you all the best of luck!