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Childhood trauma

User Profile: blueunknown
blueunknown July 16th, 2024

My childhood wasn't like any other I was abused, Neglected, abandoned and mentally trapped. My father was the cause of all this and although he no longer lives with me/ is no longer in my life the memories and trauma still affect me to this day. It's hard trusting anyone as I'm terrified I'll be hurt again. I've been told "the past is the past let it go" which yes the past is the past but I still don't understand why it all had to happen especially since my father never treated my brother the way he treated me. I can't let go of it as I need answers, answers I know I'll never find or get. I don't know what to do. A single smell, action or place can bring me back to the trauma. It's hard to deal with.

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User Profile: Tinywhisper11
Tinywhisper11 July 16th, 2024

@blueunknown hey sweetie ❤ childhood trauma, is not something that's exactly easy to let go off, it haunts our memories, little triggers can start off so much fear😥 it ruins lives😞 I understand you want questions answered, there's so much to try and understand and process in our minds. Just take it one day at a time, and be kind to yourself ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤I'm always here for you ❤

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User Profile: blueunknown
blueunknown OP July 16th, 2024

Thank u ml 💞 that means alot. It's just hard because when I open up I always get told "the past is the past" "Let it go" "that was years ago" but it's not that simple I just wish people understood that

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User Profile: Tinywhisper11
Tinywhisper11 July 17th, 2024

@blueunknown I understand how you feel ❤ you can't just tell your brain, to forget about it. And it's not very nice for people to tell you those things😥 the best way to stop the hurt, is by talking about it. I'm sorry you don't have people you can talk to. But here you can safely talk about everything ❤ hugs you tightly ❤

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User Profile: IndigoWhisper
IndigoWhisper July 16th, 2024

People who don't get it are always saying things like "the past is the past" and "let it go" - those of us with actual c-PTSD know its not that easy.


While it's helpful to not try and dwell in it a the time you need the chance to process the things that happened to you with proper support.  You may never have all the answers but you do have people who get it.  There are tricks that will weaken those automatic triggers and help you heal but your trauma can't just be dropped like excess baggage it doesn't work that way.  

User Profile: starryCandy6123
starryCandy6123 July 16th, 2024

Yes when. We are treated in such a way, and we did nothing wrong. Although he does not live with you. The memories still linger on . You maybe able to forgive , but not forget, you need to talk about it. I am free if you wish too talk more

User Profile: hxrsheyx
hxrsheyx July 21st, 2024

@blueunknown

I'm so sorry you've been through so much. That really must be so difficult to go through emotionally and mentally. You feelings are very valid and you are so strong to have gone through this. It's important to take one step at a time. You can get through this and I believe in you ❤