Ask something much i guess
Hello everyone,
I've been feeling the need to do it for a while and I've finally found the courage to ask you something, it's just a request, a "message in a bottle" that i'm trying to send it to everyone who can find it, hoping that someone thinks is good if it's possible. I am looking for someone to tell my story to, it would take time cause I'd really like to tell it all, I know perfectly that it isn't an appetizing request (why someone would torture himself random listening me talking about traumatic issues hahahah) and I feel I have to justify the fact that I don't do it out of self-centeredness I swear, I'm asking because I'm an extremely lonely person who feels having too much to bring back, and it wouldn't be enough a superficial chat every now and then. I don't have such an interesting story or an epic suffering, but in my mediocrity I really have a lot to process and I don't know how to do it. If at this point in this "letter in a bottle" someone thought they could do it, I want to say thank you, I don't have much to give you and I realize that I'm literally making some sort of listener announcement, but I'm not a self-centered person and I'm not looking for a monologue, I'd like to listen to you too, but I need someone willing to listen to what I have to say, even if it might take time, a friend, even if I'm asking, like a longterm listener but if I don't like this definition, it seems cold and distant to me. Thank you if you have read all this ♥️
Hey there @TipTipTip, I appreciate you reaching out.
It takes a lot of courage to reach out and express what you’re feeling, and I'd like to remind you that your words and sentiments are truly valued.
Bottling things inside can be such an incredibly lonely experience, I am sooo proud of you for wanting to share and share it all with someone.
Experiences, whether you feel they are grand or mundane, and feelings whether difficult or happy, are all valid and worthy of being heard. Your voice matters.
We all have our burdens, and sometimes sharing them can be a pivotal step in processing what we’re going through, I feel. It's exactly what 7 cups is here for too, to bridge the gap and offer the kind space to people to feel heard and supported as they share their story.
The fact that you also want to listen to others shows your deep empathy and the kind of connection you seek—one that is mutual and compassionate. But please know that, in a listener-member support arrangement here, you as the member are the focus in the chat, and you are more than welcome to treat your listener as a sounding board. Listeners (most, I hope) here are quite aware of the professionalism they are expected to exhibit and to treat chats in their active-trained-listener capacity, ensuring you feel comfortable sharing how you feel, and the conversation remains about *you*.
If someone is able to be that long-term listener for you, I hope they will be able to hold space for your story and create a trusting environment where you feel safe to express yourself.
(Here's a helpful post for you to check out- https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/Resourcesat7CupstoHelpYou_1275/LongTermListenerSupport_293569/)
It’s okay to need support, and your willingness to be vulnerable speaks volumes about your strength.
Please remember that you’re not alone in this journey. There are people here who genuinely care and who would be honored to hear what you have to say.
You are important, your feelings matter, and I truly hope you find the compassionate and patient support you seek. Ooh and of course, all at your pace and as you take your time in opening up, sharing, expressing. 💛
Thank you very much... I felt understood on your comment... Thank you 💖
@TipTipTip I am glad you do.💖
@TipTipTip
I admire your bravery and honesty in reaching out for the support you need. I actually felt that I understand what you said very well and I guess I went through some traumatic events and felt that I wanted to tell the world everything that happened and that they would understand what I understood. However, I found that some people could not understand the significance of anything so I began to think these issues are not important to others - although they are to me. Therefore, I hope you can find someone who can understand you and is on a similar 'wavelength'. I have listened to people who have gone through similar experiences and we had a lot of understanding and it felt comfortable to know someone really knows what you are talking about beyond words. People might understand and offer support without having similar experiences but I do think if you can find someone who has a similar story it would help a lot.