Now What?
I was with this person for about 8 months. We're great friends. He's homeless & has little to no support in his life. I've helped provide for him and allow him to feel more comfortable working through his problems. He quit relying on drugs. When I met him, he'd realized his current path was going to kill him or send him to jail for a long time and was very open to change.
Despite the positive changes, he has relapses of abuse. He usually chases me & bars me from leaving the situation because he needs a "resolution" to believe I'll come back. He never punches me & very seldom slaps me. He bodily restrains me and chokes me.
Since quitting drugs, he's become increasingly schizophrenic. I tried to pursuade him to get treatment but he avoided it.
I got him to the psych ward yesterday after two episodes of extreme abuse, the first in a construction site where he choked me until I passed out, threatened me with a piece of rebar, asked which hole was my size(for a grave), started to rape me, said that God told him this was the last day he'd ever see me, told me the voices in his head said to kill me & asked how to make them stop. I talked him down & escaped back home. The next day he came to my house, thought that my friend at the door was the police & flipped again. I sincerely believed I'd die. I stayed in the psych ward with him for a few hours because I knew I'd be safe & he needed the support. He seems fairly happy in the ward. I'm trying to process the trauma.
@ZeroAndOne Hi there, I want to say that what you went through must have been a very frightening and traumatic experience for you. You did what you could for this person and they are now getting the help they need. Now perhaps its time for you to get the support that you feel would help you come to terms with and deal with the experiences you went through. Being a victim of abuse and violence is extremely traumatic and frightening but you can learn to overcome the aftermath that you are left with and become a survivor of those experiences. If you need someone to chat to you are welcome to send me a message if you would like to chat or there are other listeners here at 7 cups who would only be too willing to offer you the support you are looking for.
I do not know what country your in and whether you would like a helpline number to speak with someone over the phone or online but I would like to leave the following three resources for you if you feel they could be of help to you.
http://www.thehotline.org/
http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/
https://www.rainn.org/
Please also check out the forums and chat rooms here at 7 cups which offers support to people who have gone through traumatic experiences, violence and sexual assault. You may find these to be of use and support to you and sometimes it can help to know your not alone and that there are people here who care. Good luck
@dancingRainbow45
Hey which chat room would I join for domestic abuse? Thank you
@orangeApricot5417 There are forums for those who have suffered domestic abuse and though I dont think they have their own chat room as such they may from time to time host discussions that you may find useful...it may be worth keeping an eye on the forums to see if anything comes up discussion wise that you think could be of use to you :)