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I was abused mentally and emotionally by my ex bfs and to some expand by my parents.
There are so many of us who are being abused and we don't even know we are. Share your story to help someone :)
@Helping2findAway
Thank you for sharing that with us! I hope that by you sharing your story, you are helping others recognize if they are in a bad situation. It could really help some get into a safer situation.
I've been married for 17 years and I put up with emo abuse from my husband for years...I am sick of it and I feel like I still love him but I just no longer like him as a person...i know I need to leave but whenever I get close...by the end of the argument I feel guilty for "selfishly demanding" basic things from him. I am working on strengthening myself though...for my and my kids happiness.
Sounds like it's very frustrating, I love your courage and strong :) Happy to hear your working on becoming stronger @Juswannabehappy
@Helping2findAway thank you, things got pretty bad tonight and i asked him to leave and he told me he wasn't going anywhere and I should leave...I usually go back and forth with him on who should leave...this time I grabbed my kids and we left the house at 11:30 pm. Now he's apologizing and telling me he doesn't want to lose me.
@Juswannabehappy.. sounds like he now realised you were not joking on the matter and you are serious.
I hope it be an eye opener to him.
@Juswannabehappy
Seems to me you took a peaceful solution by leaving. I hope things have been working well for you since.
@Juswannabehappy you are doing what's best for you and your kids and that's all anyone can ask. I am in a similar situation and take comfort someone is taking the same approach I am. Your kids will see past it all one day and realize what you've done for them.
@Helping2findAway
I want to learn to forgive my spouse and myself for abuses in our marriage. I do not want to leave. Other than the name-calling, general hatefulness and anger, neglect and disrespect one towards the other (which sounds lovely but yeh), it's safe to say the worst times are over, I think.
I just want to learn how to let it all go now. And I want to trust him again. I want us to have a better life and be better partners to each other. I can only change myself. I cant put everything on him - he already does so much. It's me that's not changing. It's me that is stuck in the past. I'm a long way from forgiveness but if anyone has been through this and knows how to come out the other side I'd very much like to hear how you did it.
We've been together over two decades. Would love to see us improve from here on out and finish strong.
@themainjane hi there.. unfortunately I'm not an expert and my advise may do more harm than good. Maybe seeking an expert help and expressing your feelings towards each others may help .. :)
@Helping2findAway
Thank you for responding.
