Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Checkin - Wednesday June 13 2018

Good morning/afternoon/evening everyone!!! If you saw my response to Ravens checkin on Sunday, then what youre about to read may seem familiar...because Im literally copying and pasting my post from Sunday. I think its something important. Ready? Here we go...

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by how bad a situation has gotten, but you dont even know how it got that bad to begin with? Questioning things like How did I end up in this position? or How did things get so messy?

Well, I did a lot of cleaning this weekend...and I have no idea how my apartment got as bad as it did. But it was bad. Really bad. Realistically it still is bad, but its getting better. Heres the thing...stuff happens so slowly sometimes that you dont even realize it. I had gotten so used to just tossing my clothes at the end of my bed when I changed into my pajamas, that I hadnt even realized just how much bed Id covered!! I got so used to sleeping curled up because that was all the space I had, but theres practically a whole mattress that I was missing out on! It happened so gradually that I didnt even notice. I lost a tiny bit of my bed at a time, so it was nearly indistinguishable day to day. Now I have my bed back and its incredible to me just how big it really is. I think a lot of things happen like that. It starts off small and just gradually builds until you find yourself wondering how you let it get so bad. But thats not what happened. You didnt let anything get bad. It was tiny changes day to day that ultimately came together into this one big change or mess or whatever.

Just think for a second about abusive situations. Abuse is an ongoing thing. When its mentioned in the news, youll always see at least one person asking why the person stayed/why they didnt leave/why they let it happen. Its really important to remember that it happens gradually. It starts off fine. Then maybe a few months in, they hurt you, but you brush it off because theyve been so nice until then. Surely it was a one time thing...right? I guess not. Cuz it happens again. And again. And again. And soon enough its happening so consistently you never get a break. But you cant even remember what it used to be like before by that point. Because it happened so slowly and gradually that you couldnt even tell.

Feel free to pop in and share as much or as little as youd like! 😊💜

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