Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Sunday, 10 December 2017
Good morning everyone,
Yesterday, we wrote about the very special individuals in each of our lives who have been important or made a difference as we all make those positive steps in the healing process. Today, I am hoping to continue with that positive theme. If you would like to, please share a time when things may have seemed a bit more chaotic than we would prefer and through mindfulness, the smile of a stranger, a call from a friend or just watching a sunset things seemed to settle us into a safe, less chaotic and more joyful place.
I will be happy to begin as I happen to have had one of those seemingly chaotic days on Friday. I was in a hurry to get home as the snow began to turn our 5 lane highway into the equivalent of a parking lot. I promise, my car was actually in Park for most of my commute. I finally arrived home only to discover that the power was out. Oh my, all of those committments were stalled temporarily. So, I did the one thing that I truly love and went for a walk in the newfallen snow. The moment I walked outside and became mindful of the beauty that surrounded me, heard the laughter of the children and received warm smiles from neighbors the stress just melted away. I sat with the scene for a while and realized that this was one of those times when I was not in control of the things creating my anxiety, but certainly was in control the time I spent appreciating the positive aspects of the moment.
If you cannot think of a specific time, that is okay too. I would love to hear from you and know how you are doing today. It is always nice to see the familiar faces of my trauma family pop up on the screen.
As always, be kind to yourselves and make sure that self-care is a part of your day.
@Compassionatelistener108
Hello Listener and everyone.
What is the deal with last Friday? X_X;
The whole week was pretty chaotic for me, especially Friday. On Thursday I had to go to my psych's at a different time, and I encountered someone who essentially hid from me. Or maybe I just thought they did and retreated into the bathroom for something. Instead of thinking I was some hideous, ugly creature I reflected on how if they did hide it's pretty damn similar to my own problems. So I can sympathize. Another thing- I just don't get how people could bully them as they did me for that kinda thing. I've been outright laughed at for that behavior. Which does NOT help things. Needless to say, I approached it mindfully, and jokingly I told myself I was just so damn sexy of a best I must be intolerable XD lol
And Friday. Things came to a head on Friday with the very negative person in my life. There's been a lot of manipulation, etc. I mentioned it before... but they basically went through their plans they orchestrated completely behind my back and showed up with the thing I was pretty much loathing. They got what usually takes people months to figure out done and over with within a week.
It was a very unwise purchase, and eventually, I got so sick of the fighting I gave up and just let them have their way on it. I don't plan on staying in this trainwreck of a situation. I have been stating my boundaries, I've been decisive on how I feel about things. However, this would've been done no matter what. I've walked away when I needed to. When I was baited and stalked I remained calm and didn't fire back. But today I'm in tears over things. I'm so high stress right now.
My next psych appointment can't come soon enough. I've reached out to people on here, as well. It's great talking with people outside of the situation who are positive and just seeing people working towards healing and positivity gives me a lot of hope.
@CaloenasNicobarica
I am happy you are finding the trauma family a safe, positive haven in the midst of the chaos you described. It is difficult to rise above and not become engulfed in being reactionary in such situations. I applaud you for reaching out as you try to find your way through the situations with strength and courage. I wish you the best. It is nice to know we dont have to be alone as we heal. I hope you keep sharing as much or as little as you feel you would like to at any time. Positive thoughts are headed your way in the interim.
Take care of yourself as we enter a new week.
@CaloenasNicobarica Hoi hoi 
sounds like you have been doing very well. Sorry things got rough on Friday, and ya what's up with that?
Keep your chin up hon, your doing great. It's good to see you around again.
There has been major family arguments after a death in the family and I couldnt stay quiet any longer. Friday was the final straw. Iv had enough of seeing my loved ones hurting. Right now Im struggling because Im in a situation where Im staying with someone whos friends I dont feel safe around..I cant tell her because I dont want to ruin her plans but Im also terrified for my own reasons..so back end of this week was just not good at all. Now I darent leave my room either. Sorry for the negativity
@lightVillage54
Being honest is always something that you should do as our trauma family is here to support you. I am very sorry for your loss. Grief is such a strong and difficult experience for many. I am genuinely sorry it has been divisive as well.
It must make it twice as difficult for you feeling unsafe in your current surroundings. I hope that will change for you soon. It is such an important part of the healing process.
As you continue dealing with these situations, please feel free to share in a genuine manner. We are here by your side as you discover your personal path to healing. Everyone is a bit different and you are certainly doing your very best.
@Compassionatelistener108 Im really trying here..better to sleep through these type of emotions for me but due to lock being removed from the bedroom door I kind of feel unsafe. I suppose I will be okay
@lightVillage54
I have no doubt that you are doing your best. Please do stay safe as you decide how you wish to deal with these complex emotions. If you need a listener, please dont hesitate to talk through this in greater detail with him or her.
@Compassionatelistener108 I dont want to bother anyone again
@lightVillage54 Huge Hugs Bunny.
I hope we can speak again soon
Great work today everyone, Thank You alle for checking in with us today.
Another close to a long day for me.
*Raven Bows to Alle and fly's away
