Frustrated
I face real life and death situations a lot, not every day but often. It's frustrating that there's no one else out there in healthcare to talk about it. I walked out of a threatening situation today. Now I'm here feeling the rollercoaster of feels one gets after near death experiences. It's hard to listen to people complaining about breakups when I'm terrified one of these days I won't come home from work. Also it's hard going from a situation of chaos and then taking the kids to the park an hour later. Am I the only one?
@DarkGalaxy55555
Im sorry to hear you are struggling :( having near death experiences are super scary and can leave us with different emotions such as fear, what you are feeling and experiencing is valid. And i can understand that it can get overwhelming when you arent getting the support you need. And please take care of yourself, if listening to other people isnt beneficial to your mental health thats valid, you dont have to neglect yourself. please be kind to yourself <3 i hope you find the support you are looking for and the support you deserve. you matter
Hi DarkGalaxy55555,
I completely feel what you are saying. It feels like nobody talks about or acknowledges how hard and traumatic working in healthcare usually (but not always) is. We need to be empathic all day at work dealing with intense life or death situations. And then when you come home to friends and family and hear the talking about their problems (like breakups), it’s hard to get not upset and feel like theirs are trivial comparitively.
Because while those things (breakups, upcoming exams, lost car keys, etc.) are deeply upsetting to the people going through them and we should respect that, our reference range for what’s “bad enough” to be considered an upsetting event is soooo extreme compared to the general population.
It can be hard to keep empathizing with those around us that aren’t going through similarly intense, extreme experiences on a regular basis. Which makes it hard to lean on a feel close to the exact people that we SHOULD be leaning on to help process the things we experience at work. I don’t have any answers but I hear you, you aren’t alone in feeling that way.
As a fellow veteran and healthcare worker for several years as well as a parent, I totally understand. You’re not alone and I find that I have perfected the art form of differentiation between healthcare work and flipping the switch to parenting. It’s draining.
