DIVORCE doesn’t mean a failed marriage
DIVORCE doesn’t mean a failed marriage
We’ve been conditioned to believe that a marriage has failed if it doesn’t last forever.
I feel that a marriage leading to divorce can be complete & successful if it has achieved what it was meant to; NOT every marriage is supposed to last forever & it is okay.
I’ve seen many divorced individuals :
✔️ Evolving enormously post divorce as if it’s a rebirth
✔️ Transforming into a completely new individual
✔️ Feeling a renewed sense of energy
✔️ Taking a quantum leap in their thinking
✔️ Embracing new chapters of love
I believe divorce shouldn’t be a taboo anymore.
If a partner or a couple wants to break free from a marriage that doesn’t seem like love or aligned with one’s being, WHY NOT separate provided they’ve tried everything to make it work and are still suffering?
Where we fail as a society is when we tell others:
👉🏿 It’s okay. 99% of the marriages are like this.
👉🏿 Come on. Never think of a divorce.
👉🏿 Think about your child, compromise & stay.
By saying so, we just reinforce a belief in them that life is meant to be dysfunctional and unhealthy marriages are normal.
Can we stop? Is this how we are evolving?
Hi there,
I felt drawn to respond to this for some reason.
Life and almost what happens in it is not a choice , its a dynamic happening that reminds us often that we cannot control most of everything, however what we can control are our reactions our thoughts and our emotions.
Labelling divorce as a good thing or a bad thing is definitely a subjective opinion and I believe it can be both good and bad.
What we would like is not a mismatched relationship if it is in our control. Staying with someone who negates your existance is a waste of energies for both parties.
Do we understand what we want or are we colored with expectations from society and have no minds of our own?
If we can do one good thing ,it is that we help one another and even if it hurts we cannot control other people and make them suffer endlessly.
I often find myself questioning situations and this was one of those situations.
I wish all of you the best of luck navigating through life and its struggles , hoping you find peace , happiness and place you can call home and people you can call family.
Bye bye 🌿
@yashggorani I appreciate this post so very much. I cried to read it...
I was married 21 years and had 3 children. I went through one *** of a separation and divorce. I tried everything I could at the time to make it better. Did I do it perfectly? No. But I did the best I could. I heard all of these reasons and more to stay in a miserable marriage from people trying to convince me divorce was wrong. I was shamed and ostracized from church. I lost people I thought were friends.
Now it has been 8 years since I started the divorce. And I have grown so much and I actually like who I am now. I can say I truly love myself. And I never could before. I am awake and aware and loving life! I am not the same person I was 8 years ago.
So THANK YOU for the validation👸and for posting this because I am SURE there are many others who need to hear this message.