Loneliness
Both single and taken individuals can experience feelings of loneliness. Being in a relationship or being single does not necessarily determine a person's level of loneliness.
Loneliness is a complex emotional state that can be influenced by a variety of factors, such as social connections, physical isolation, emotional support, and personal circumstances. A person may feel lonely even if they are in a relationship if they lack emotional intimacy or feel disconnected from their partner. On the other hand, a single person may feel content and fulfilled in their social relationships and not experience loneliness.
It's important to recognize that loneliness is a normal human experience and seeking support from friends, family, or mental health professionals can help individuals alleviate feelings of loneliness.
@Imperfect6 thanks for sharing your thoughts on loneliness. Hope anyone feeling lonely will step up and share because we are all here together to give and receive support.
@soulsings
Yeah i hope so, thanks for appreciation
Absolutely 💯!
Connection is important being seen, valued and given presence. You may be lonely surrounded by people when you feel disconnection.
Disconnection can also internal and when you feel a deep soulful disconnection.
A supportive environment is one of the social determinants of health in what makes and keeps us healthy. So do reach out for help. 💕💕💕💕💯💯💯💯
@SunShineAlwaysGrateful
A supportive environment plays a significant role in our overall health. It encompasses social determinants such as relationships, community, and access to resources. If we're facing challenges, reaching out for help and support is crucial.
Yes absolutely 💯
@Imperfect6: Thank you for your post.
I was messaging 988 yesterday and they asked me what triggers my suicidal thoughts. That's the first time I have ever been asked that question. I thought about it and a lot is feeling lonely or a sense of abandonment. Being left out. Being unwanted.
I have a girlfriend but she is long-distance and always busy. I get maybe 1-3 texts a day at times. I don't have any friends due to recent reasons of losing them (falling outs from major traumas).
988 told me about this site. It's my first time on right now so I'm kind of exploring all the forums.
Finding this one however resonated with me. My dog is my everything. She's my best friend. My child. My reason to live. As for interacting with humans... well that's why I'm here.
@Parker64
I'm really glad you reached out and shared your feelings here. Loneliness and a sense of abandonment can be significant triggers for suicidal thoughts, and it's crucial to address these emotions. It's understandable that long-distance and limited interaction with your girlfriend, as well as the loss of friends due to traumatic experiences, have intensified these feelings for you.
It's heartening to hear that your dog brings you so much comfort and companionship. Pets can be incredible sources of love and support. While human interaction is different, finding supportive communities, like the one you're exploring here, can provide understanding and connection.
Remember that seeking help is a courageous step towards healing. Consider reaching out to mental health professionals, helplines, or support groups that specialize in addressing loneliness and suicidal thoughts. They can provide valuable guidance, assistance, and a listening ear during challenging times. You're not alone, and there are people who genuinely care and want to help. Stay strong, and take care of yourself.
Relationship status doesn't necessarily determine the presence of loneliness. Loneliness is a complex emotional state influenced by various factors such as social connections, emotional support, and personal circumstances. Even in relationships, individuals can feel lonely if they lack emotional intimacy or connection. Similarly, single individuals can have fulfilling social relationships and not experience loneliness. Seeking support from loved ones or professionals can be beneficial in addressing feelings of loneliness @Imperfect6
@blissfulbreeze007
You're absolutely right. Relationship status alone is not a determining factor for experiencing loneliness. Loneliness is a multi-faceted emotional state that can be influenced by various factors. Emotional intimacy, connection, social relationships, and personal circumstances all play a role in our experience of loneliness.
@Imperfect6 in my case when I think I "should" be with people and I am not then that can be a lonely feeling. My expectations have a big influence of if I feel lonely.
@soulsings
You've touched upon an important aspect of loneliness—how our expectations can play a significant role in how we perceive and experience it. When we have certain expectations about being with others or how our social interactions should be, and those expectations are not met, it can indeed lead to feelings of loneliness.
@Imperfect6 I hear you. And I agree with your observations.
@soulsings
Thank you
Hello I'm new here I'm not sure how to use this app just yet but just came across this post hoping I can reply or comment. I must admit that I'm lonely right now and have been feeling this way for some time at first I tried to just shake it off and ignore it but as time has gone on it's just got worse. I am in a relationship with someone for 10 years now but that relationship I feel is slowly fading for reasons and I just don't know anymore wheather I want to be with this person or not a lot has happened in 10 years it used to be fun to be with this person but now it's just not but I'm having a hard time knowing what I want. I used to have a lot of people around me people I could chat to have a laugh with but over the years people have slowly disappeared especially my best friend who passed away in 2018 he was always there for me and vice versa I could always tell him how I was feeling ect but obviously since he died I don't feel like I've got anyone to talk to people are too busy now they don't really have time I've tried talking to my mum about my problems but all she says is we've all got our issues in life which didn't help to be fair I wasn't expecting that kind of response so I decided not to carry the conversation on seenas I've also tried numerous times before to talk to her about things I just don't think she knows what to say or how to be a mum really as we're more like friends than daughter and mother. My father suffers with really bad anxiety so I don't want to bother him with things as he's just recovering from a breakdown so I don't want to put stress or upset onto him I just feel so lonely with no one to talk to about it things are especially hard for me at the moment as one of my cats has just passed away last week I've just had my birthday that was a disaster and a lonely day I just feel like maybe this is how it is for me now maybe I'm one of those people who will end up alone which I don't want I just don't know what to do anymore I don't have many friends and I have problems making new friends because people don't want to hear about people's problems so really I'm alone with all this
@practicalNest1191
I understand that you're feeling lonely and going through a difficult time right now. It can be tough when you don't have someone to talk to about your feelings and experiences. Sometimes, simply having someone who listens and empathizes can make a difference.
I'm here to provide support and listen to whatever you'd like to share. You don't have to go through this alone, and it can be helpful to express your thoughts and emotions. Feel free to share as much or as little as you're comfortable with, and I'm here to listen without judgment.
Sometimes, talking about our feelings can bring a sense of relief, even if we don't receive advice in return. It's important to have a space where you can be heard and understood. Remember, you are not alone in feeling this way, and many others have experienced similar struggles.
If there's anything specific you'd like to discuss or any particular topic you'd like to talk about, please let us know. We are here to listen and support you through this difficult time.
You can talk to lots of listener here
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@Imperfect6 I was unfaithful in my marriage for over a year and a half. I did not do it for love or affection. I honestly do not know why I did it or why I continued to do it. Six months ago my life came crashing down after the girl told my wife. Six months later and my “wife” (still legally married but separated) is with someone else. It happened almost instantly. 3 weeks after everything came out I found him in our bed with our then two year old daughter in my hands. She states she was trying to “protect my feelings” this whole time cause “the truth hurts” but in reality I just wanted the truth about this guy. She never gave me a second chance to prove myself to her. It’s all I wanted. She never thought about our daughter and how this might affect her. Our daughter was still waking up night and going to the room but my wife stated that she wouldn’t see him and he would move to the love sac. I don’t even know who she is anymore. This guy still lives at home with his mom and is younger than her. We had a huge argument today and now she wants to split off finances after I have been putting all of my money into the mortgage and utilities this whole time. Obviously I was thinking about my daughter because my wife can’t pay for the house on her own. I am torn between asking to sell the house and we split the profit to buy our own homes so our daughter can have two happy homes instead of just one. But we built this house in this area so our daughter could go to a great school district. My life is a nightmare and I just want this pain to go away but it’s never ending. How could I let this happen? I know that this will never happen again. I won’t let this define who I am as a person. I made a lot of mistakes but I did not deserve to just be thrown back to my parents house. I never expected this to happen.
@why9889
I'm really sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're going through. Infidelity and its aftermath can be incredibly painful and complex for all parties involved. It's understandable that you're feeling a mix of emotions right now.
While I can't offer specific advice for your situation, I can try to provide some general guidance. It's important to prioritize open and honest communication with your wife, even if it's difficult. Express your feelings, concerns, and desires calmly and respectfully. It's crucial to have a constructive dialogue about your daughter's well-being and the financial aspects of your separation.
Consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationships or marriage counseling. They can provide guidance, facilitate communication, and help both of you navigate through this challenging time.
Regarding your idea of selling the house and splitting the profit, it may be worth discussing this option with your wife. Keeping your daughter's best interests in mind, explore different possibilities that could provide stability and happiness for both households.
Remember, healing from infidelity takes time, patience, and effort from both parties involved. It's important to reflect on your actions and understand why you made those choices, so you can learn from them and grow as a person.
Focus on taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, during this difficult period. Lean on trusted friends or family members for support, and consider seeking individual therapy to help you process your emotions and gain clarity.
It's important to remember that your worth as a person is not defined solely by your mistakes. Acknowledge your errors, take responsibility for them, and strive to become a better person moving forward. Give yourself time to heal and work towards personal growth.
Ultimately, the path forward will depend on the decisions both you and your wife make. It's crucial to prioritize the well-being of your daughter and approach the situation with empathy and understanding.
@Imperfect6 Just like 2 stones can rub together to create a spark to light up a candle that can illuminate a dark room, we just need to find one more lonely person to be with, and we won't be be lonely anymore.
@Quest4Love
I guess it depends on how lonely you are. I have associated with people when i was lonely that i now regret knowing. Some people are quick to take any friendship that comes along and i see the results in the forums. Stories of all types of abuse from simple gaslighting, theft to assault.
Being open is a good thing but not if you don't set boundaries.
@Gettingbettertoday
Setting boundaries is crucial to protect ourselves in relationships, especially when feeling lonely. Rushing into connections can lead to regrettable experiences and potential harm. Be discerning and selective when forming friendships. Healthy boundaries ensure mutual respect and emotional well-being.
@Quest4Love
While the analogy of two stones rubbing together to create a spark and finding another lonely person to alleviate loneliness may sound comforting, it's important to understand that loneliness is a complex emotional state that cannot be solved simply by being with another person.
Loneliness is not solely about physical companionship; it involves a sense of disconnection and lack of emotional intimacy. It's possible for two lonely individuals to come together and still experience loneliness if they do not establish a meaningful connection or if their emotional needs are not met.
Additionally, relying solely on another person to alleviate loneliness can be unhealthy and unsustainable. It's essential to cultivate a sense of self-worth, self-compassion, and self-fulfillment, regardless of relationship status. Building a supportive network of friends, family, and seeking professional help if needed can also contribute to overcoming feelings of loneliness.
@Quest4Love that is a nice analogy.
I think we also need to look at our expectations. The biggest problem in relationships I have had is to expect the person to take away all my problems or solve them. I think it helps if a person can honestly look at what they are hoping for and see it that is realistic. Sometimes there is a spark, but physical connections only last so long. I need to see deeper than just the body and find someone I can talk to and open up with.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@soulsings
Looking beyond physical connections and seeking emotional intimacy and genuine connection is indeed important. Being able to communicate openly and honestly, sharing thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with a trusted individual can contribute to a deeper and more fulfilling connection.
@soulsings yes, true. It saves time if people write their expectations from the relationship early on. Are expressive of their needs and problems and trust the other person enough to open up. But I understand it can be a double edged sword .
@Imperfect6
Loneliness is something I feel I need to wrestle with often as I'm still single in my mid thirties while all my gal pals are married or in serious relationships. I've been dropped as a friend completely when a man enters the picture which is so hurtful.
I'm also lonely at work as I don't feel seen, heard, or validated in what I do...my supervisor is overly negative although I always give 100%. I rarely see the friends I have at work outside as they have spouses and families.
@neatBlueberry5213 sorry you do not feel appreciated at work. I used to plan creative projects for evenings and weekends and it helped me take the focus off of work as the center of my life.
@neatBlueberry5213
Loneliness can be tough when most friends are in relationships. It hurts when friendships change due to new partners. Feeling unseen at work and lacking social connections adds to the loneliness. Take care of yourself, seek support, and find new ways to meet like-minded people. Remember, your worth is not tied to your relationship status or job. Surround yourself with supportive people who value you.