please help me through my worst time
I meet again a guy who used to bully me. Long story short he bullied me and then fter a long while he apologized but i couldn't forgive him...The emotional trauma still haunts me til today (It happened 7 years ago) Recently i just happened to meet him again, he noticed me but he ran away... He ignored me and i felt frustrated because i want to solve this trauma once and for all i contact him but its been 1 day and i dont get any response. What should i do
@Eitas
Hi there, it's some time ago that you made that post about the guy who bullied you. How are you doing now?
I'm not sure if talking to this person would help you feel better after what happened, but I think you should be careful. Even if he's different now, I wouldn't want to contact someone who bullied or hurt me. If things go wrong, it could lead to deep contemplation, anxiety, or depression.
The "trauma" or "difficulty" you feel is not because of him, it's not because of what he did, it is only because you keep regurgitating the thoughts about it, you keep thinking and telling the same story so it sticks longer and never ends, it will only keep gaining momentum as long as you keep making this a trending thing.
The solution is to change your thoughts and take your attention away from the subject. Create a different story of what you want for yourself.
You just have to try and face it, forgiving him means freedom for you from his bondage
try and forget about it and forgive him totally so you can also have peace of mind
I know is hard , but you have to try
you don’t necessarily have to see him
if seeing him will help you forgive him then do so
