Understanding people
Trying to figure out people who are hateful or don't seem to want help are either seeking attention or are just really mean and hateful people. That's just my opinion. I've come across 2 females from Canada in the past 2 months who both seemed very similar. It could be just Canadians (no offensive to anyone Canadian) or it could just be their personality. I've been trying to figure people out for a while because I like psychology, but when I try to help some people, some people are just so hateful/rude or are seeking attention. That's been hard for me to decide. I try to help as much as I can but no matter what advice I give or how much sympathy I give them, they remain the same.
@Captainlrg
Please allow yourself kindness and grace and understand you’re not of fault of someone else’s disinterest. 🌹 If you’re worried of their health and safety, the best thing to do is send them links and resources. Here’s an all-encompassing directory that can help any Canadians who are in need of mental health services and various .
https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/campaigns/get-help-here.html
Also sorry if my messages are coming out weird! Please take care of yourself and your health.
Some folks are just cruel. It sucks when that happens and makes it feel impossible about things or to feel better. I would separate myself from them, and keep trying.
Some folks don’t want to be figured out, so am unsure if it’s folks from here or just other places. I know some people in my life would just lose it if I tried to “fix them”. Even if one of them it’s still not my job and would be nice if they went to therapy but I cannot force them.
They rather continue to push away people, blame them, rage at them, and think it is okay and why aren’t I just doing what they want?!? So even when I took off, they still raged at me for that too… yeah can’t win lol best to detach sometimes.
@Captainlrg understanding people is probably the most difficult thing to do in the whole world. No two brains think the same way, so it's almost impossible to really know anyone. Those 2 people you mentioned well there could be 83 reasons why they are that way, and when our brains can't work out how to help theese people or what to say, perhaps just listening to them is all they need ❤🙂 your trying your best here, and Thank you so much for that ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤
@Captainlrg
Do you think we have the power to change other people? Because I think we don't. They sometimes choose to change themselves, but usually not when they are judged or criticised, but when they realise something doesn't work, or when they feel... accepted (acceptance does not mean agreeing to be a victim of any ill-intended actions).
I guess something we've been (peacefully) fighting with here at 7 Cups is prejudice, labelling and generalisation. There are roughly 40 millions of Canadians. Do you think it is fair judging them based on just two ladies?
Even if some people behave sometimes in a self-centred, hateful, psychopathic, gossipy, cynical or manipulative way, I think the worst thing we can do is to join them in that attitude. I believe hatred is some kind of and illness and I've actually lost the count of small acts of help from people who I believed were selfish.