What am I doing wrong that I'm not happy all the time?

Does this question sound familiar to some of you? Maybe, you have heard this question from a friend or even asked it yourself. But is there really an answer?

I am not sure. Humans are not designed to be happy all the time, it is as simple as that. However, society and the media tells us that we need to feel happy to be okay.

When you switch on your television and watch advertisements, you usually see happy people. That can make us feel like something is wrong with us when we feel down. I'm not talking about disorders like depression or anxiety, but rather about occasional feelings of sadness, anger or feeling anxious. We all have a full range of emotions and they come and go. It can be lucky if we feel more happy than sad and I hope this is the case for all of you.

To try to force feelings like happiness is frustrating and dishonest to yourself. There are no wrong inner feelings, whatever we feel, it is a valid feeling but maybe not a good guide for our next action, but rather something which needs attention. Our feelings are communicators, they want to tell us something.

How difficult is it for you to stay with feelings which cause you discomfort? For example knowing “Right now I feel sad, but I know this feeling will pass”.

What do you believe causes people to struggle? Some people struggle to deal with the actions of other people. Others suffer having to deal with the emotions that arise when we deal with others.

How would you feel if all your emotions were acknowledged and accepted, even if we do not like the results? Just being okay to know you have an emotion can make a big difference.

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