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Advice? Feeling lost and unmotivated
ChaiTeaCups March 11th, 2023
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Dear 7cups friends,




I would really appreciate some advice. I'm a little over halfway through university/college, and I've lost my motivation and passion.




I'm on quite a specific degree course for a rather niche industry, with poorly paying job prospects. Its very much a degree you do for passion, not the money. When I applied for and began the course, I knew it was exactly what I wanted to do, I didn't care about money and I had big dreams. I didn't consider anything else, it's what I had wanted to do since I was 8 years old.




I'm now 20, and I've just run out of passion. I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, it's not too serious, but it has some complications that leave me with very low energy. I used to be a super high achiever, throughout the equivalent of high-school, I was the best best performing student in my year, I excelled at all my academics and put a lot of work into everything I did. Now I'm struggling to get average grades, and I've lost all motivation. Sometimes I'm tired for a week and have to extend all my assignments, I can't keep up with the reading, I skip lectures. I'm not myself.




I was meant to be doing a year in industry, but I had to drop off the course because I was too scared to live alone or with strangers whilst I'm ill, in case something happens and no one is there to help me. My university keeps running seminars on careers and careers fairs, how important experience is, and how we can't just rely on our degrees. I can't even keep up with the workload from my degree, the idea of trying to gain experience alongside is killing me.




I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I pretty much defined myself by being a "nerd" who loves their subject. I don't even know if I want to stay in this industry anymore. The idea of switching degrees and starting again is exhausting, and I don't have a clue what I'd do instead.




I really need a break, right now, even 9 hours of sleep isn't enough. I have a 4 week spring break coming up, but I have 4 exams with massive weighting straight afterwards that I'm not prepared for, so I'll have to spend it catching up. I don't understand how the other students on my course are doing so well, they're keeping up, doing the extra reading, getting experience and heading societies.




I don't like who I am anymore. I don't care about anything, or work hard enough. I'm deferring modules and just hoping for a minimum wage job when I get out of uni. My only goal in life is to have a cat one day. My future just looks so sad. I don't know how to keep going. Whenever I research jobs and careers I just want to cry.




I have friends, and a partner who loves and supports me. I feel guilty for being so "emotionally messy" and hard work. They all have their own problems going on, some much more serious than mine, and I feel like such a burden. I'm privileged to even be in uni, or have a family that supports me, and I feel like I'm squandering it.




What can I do? How can I get back to loving my degree and regain my passion? How do I go back to achieving top grades again? I feel like such a different person to the teenager that applied to uni, and I just want to go back and be them again.



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Helent21 March 11th, 2023
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Hey, I hope you’re doing okay.I’m in my last year of high school, my grades have dropped significantly and I can’t focus on studying anymore.The thing is that in the country I’m currently in,this year will determine if I can go to the university I want. The stress is too much I know I can do it but I just can’t do anything,I’ve spent 3 days in my bed being miserable thinking life isn’t worth it right now.You’re not alone.Don’t give up and try your best.Better days will come, you’ll get your degree and start a job.The truth is that when you have mental health problems you can’t seem to find hope anywhere.been there done that.I really believe you’ll find your hope and motivation one day.And don’t worry you’re young you will change jobs you will have a lot of things happening in your life soon.The passion you had will come when you feel better about yourself.That was not really an advice,I’m not wise nor healthy rn but I can understand your situation and I really wish for you and your partner the best

ChaiTeaCups OP March 11th, 2023
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Thank you @Helent21 🤗 I hope you get into the university you want! Good luck, sending good vibes your way. Life is hard, but there are beautiful parts too, I hope you find them. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post :)









Jaeteuk March 13th, 2023
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Many students lose their passion halfway through their degree, so, don't be too disheartened that this is happening to you too. This is like a normal phase that many students come across. Some get bored, others may find out that the potential career that they'd end up in after graduation is different than what they imagined, while there are others who lose their passion in their final year, then, decide to change majors.

With your current field of study, since it has been a childhood dream since you were 8 years old, to rekindle that spark, that passion, imagine yourself back to when you were that child. What was it then, that had made you decide to pursue education in that field, and what made you so sure, that this is what you wanted to be doing?

With an autoimmune disease that drains your energy most of the time, take it slowly. Do what you can and is capable when you're up for it. Just make sure that you keep moving forward. I'm glad you have a supportive family and a partner by your side.

Here's to hoping you can rekindle your passion!~

@ChaiTeaCups

ChaiTeaCups OP March 13th, 2023
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Thank you @jaeteuk it's nice to not feel alone in these things. Trying to take things slow, but I'm a bit of an all or nothing person. My friends joke that I don't have a speed dial, just an on off switch 🤣

I'll see if I can go through some old family photos and rekindle the joy :)

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