New "Fetish Support Group"
I like the idea of adding adult activities groups to 7cups. Divulging such desires to your partner can be very stressful and support is very helpful.
I do think that we need to do a greater expansion upon it, however. Now that we have the LGBTQ and BDSM categories, what about the others? There are perhaps thousands of fetishes out there and I know we can't add them all, but maybe we can work on a general "Fetish" category. Most of the discussions will focus not on the fetish itself but how the person can either tell their partner about it or that they worry they are the "only one" who feels this way.
In this regard, a listener doesn't have to also have the same fetish, they can just help with the anxiety that goes along with it! Maybe the category could be "How to tell my partner about my fetish."
I realize that some listeners may feel uncomfortable and that's understandable. You could also add training and a category when someone is waiting in the chat queue to alert the listeners. Of course forums should also be added.
Does everyone else think this is a good idea or is it too broad?
BDSM covers most types of fetishes. I don't see a problem with using that forum for support. I do think this is a great idea though :)
I don't think the /term/ BDSM covers all fetishes though... and I think that some people with milder kinks, or different ones that don't involve BDSM might feel uncomfortable with going there for support. What do you think would be the solution?
Additionally, the BDSM fetish is very skewed itself. There are many sub-types within it. I don't think using it as a catch-all for every fetish is really a good idea. I wouldn't think the average user would assume BDSM covers everything and be willing to enter that as their chat header.
I would agree to just changing BDSM to a generic Fetish category, but I assume it was added because admins think it's one of the more common ones and it might upset some people if we remove it.
I don't really think this is appropriate. As a site I think its great that we try to support people with all kinds of concerns and of course this is no different but I worry that this is not the right place to start having communities which I know is not the aim of your post but is what I am concerned it may turn into. I would hope that the emotional aspects would be addressed but anything extra requiring additional education might best be found via a network of people who are comfortable in talking about this on a dedicated site.
@Miracle to some extent I agree- these topics get inappropriate quite quickly, but managing fetishes still sounds okay to me if we establish our boundaries as a site
This is a good point, but I think there is a way for this topic to be added to the site. We already have guidelines for when members/guests want to discuss sexual topics. I don't think it would be too difficult to expand this to the fetish part of things.
Actually, I think this is absolutely appropriate as many individuals feel ostracized and embarrassed by their likes and dislikes. It is important to give them a voice, similar to the way we discuss mental health issues that are often privatized. Obviously, this should remain on the adult side and be closely monitored.
Is BDSM the umbrella under which all other fetishes belong? Or is "BDSM" too scarey and we just say "fetish" so its easier to talk about? Does it mater? I have many years experience teaching in the "Kink Community" and I see often when fear and misunderstanding lead to Iabling and discussions on semantics; instead of helping people feel accepted for whatever their unique desires they might be. In that worId there are a myriad of intersecting Venn diagrams when it comes to types of things people like. What vocabulary we use is the way in which we find others who like what we like.... However what everyone needs in any alternative lifestyle is *acceptance!* PS: that said I like Kinky Kinkster Kink
Yes, it is possible those things could/should be discussed there, possibly in a sub-category. Although that community in particular is not very active.
I think the cat is out of the bag already on whether adult communities should be supported on this site. We already support LGBTQ and now BDSM. What would it say to our other community members if we don't try and support other diverse communities?
I'm not saying we are to condone any lifestyle, per se. I'm just saying it's an "acceptance" thing that practitioners of these lifestyles need to talk about and that's what we are here for, isn't it?
You know what? I might as well come out and say that I know I'm not the only person who has a foot fetish. I also have a hair fetish, back fetish, protruding veins fetish, and nylons/tights fetish. It's great because my man has most of these as well. :)
I think it's great that you can come out like that, fundoggy. It's not always easy and I think you just illustrated the point that BDSM is fine, but we need to cover more bases.
Before you met your husband, was it hard to tell others about your fetishes? If you had someone to chat with here, would that have helped?
Being a kinky person myself and my fiancé being my first, I learned about most of my fetishes when I met him. :)
any type of sex topic is still taboo for some but there are many on here who have no problem openly discussing any of it, like myself. I think that if this site was here when i was younger and still struggling with who i was and what/who i was into....it wouldve greatly helped me. growing up in a household where these things were NOT openly discussed, I actively sought out other sources for guidance, support and acceptance. So I wholeheartedly agree that fetish support would be good. I have actually spoken to people who sought help for distressing fetishes...and thats who we should be here for :) If a person is uncomfortable with it, they can simply avoid that room or forum topic :)
Hi my name is Justin I have a diaper fetish can u help me it's much more than just a fetish
This idea has potential if we can identify our community limits. @Laura what do you think?
