First date and hiding scars (TW)
I've liked this guy for a while and recently reached out to him and asked him on a date. I've been so excited to get to know him but the first date is coming up quickly and I started looking in my closet to choose an outfit. I have an adorable red dress with daisies on it and I'd really love to wear it but it is short sleeved and my arms are heavily scarred (healed over but very noticeable) from cutting. I've never really worn long sleeves for the purpose of hiding my scars, but it's been a cold winter where I'm from and I realized he's never seen them. I'm suddenly very anxious about what he'll think or even worse- say. I've always been a "let people think what they wanna think" person but I really want to impress this guy and not freak him out on our first date. I'm so frightened of what impression he might get of me. Of course I'd let him know later on if things work out about my experience with self harm but the first date seems too soon. Or perhaps it'd be a good way of judging whether or not he is insensitive enough to not be worth my time if he says something rude. And on the same note, I really wouldn't want to make him uncomfortable.
Good god I'm so torn, someone please tell me what they would do in my place.
@sapphiremoon914
It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about what to wear on your upcoming date. It's important to remember that your scars don't define who you are as a person. If you feel comfortable wearing the red dress, then wear it! If you're feeling self-conscious about your scars, you could consider wearing a jacket or cardigan over the dress.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable sharing on the first date. If you do choose to share your experience with self-harm, it's important to approach the conversation in a way that feels safe and comfortable for you. Remember that if someone is truly worth your time, they will be understanding and supportive.
Good luck on your date 😊