Why are people so mean about a random person's looks?
My entire life, I have people call me names and pretty much made fun of me for how I looked. I don't even look that bad- I have black hair, small brown eyes, a big round button nose, small ears, big lips, I have eye bags, I have long skinny arms, and my fashion sense is OK. I'm a girl that is mixed with Creole, French, and native American.
They would mostly compare me with random people and objects. There had been times where people would do a "smash or pass" and unsolicitly bring me in it and it's always a "pass"
people would even do that annoying prank where they would go up to me and say that someone has a crush on me and ask me to follow them, when I do their friend would insult my appearance and or threaten their friend as if I'm the worst looking person they have ever met.
I just don't get it. I never acted overconfident about my looks, I never made fun of someone for their looks (In fact, I just don't give a *** on how a random person looks like), I'm not even overly preachy about this type of stuff, I don't even ask for these people's advice or criticism, I don't go inside random people's business or drama and keep to myself,
I'm not looking for validation for my looks or anything, I'm just wondering why so many different people call me ugly and use my own looks against me. I look long at the mirror and my phone camera, but I always find nothing physically wrong with me.
Oh friend, I'm so sorry. You don't deserve to feel this way. I'm also very insecure about my looks, always overthinking even the tiniest flaws, and people don't understand how much it can hurt. It takes up so much of your life, wondering "what's wrong with me?" "Why does nobody like me?" "What can I change to be pretty enough?" It hurts, it really does. Our generation and world is so screwed up today, it seems like everything relies on how conventionally attractive you are. It's such *** and I'm sorry you have to deal with it.
You are so beautiful. You have such a beautiful heart for not caring about appearance or judging others, or blaming other people for the unfair things you've gone through. Your heart is beautiful, and that makes you beautiful. But I am sure you are just as beautiful on the outside, as well, and I hope you can one day look in the mirror with a smile on your face, proudly able to say "this is who I am, and I am good enough." Because you are. You are beautiful, inside and out. Other people who place value on someone's appearance rather than who they are, they are the ugly ones, their hearts are ugly and shallow if they can't see past something as superficial as appearance
But I also know it's not that easy to make insecurities go away, to not care. I wish it was, life would be a *** of a lot easier haha. But I can promise you, you aren't alone. So many people struggle with this and are out there to help and support you. In fact, everyone has their own insecurities, even the people who seem the most confident or are saying cruel comments to others - they're projecting their insecurities onto you. It's not easy, I know it's not. I'm here if you ever want to talk, we all are here to support you. But you are not alone. And you are not ugly. You are beautiful, so beautiful. You have a heart of gold, and your kindness radiates to those around you and brightens up the room. You radiate because your heart is so beautiful, and that makes you so beautiful. (But also I'm sure you're gorgeous girl, trust 😊) I'm so sorry you're going through this. I love you and hope you always remember you aren't alone
@ambitiousPine9287
Sadly, even in 2025, some still judge books by their cover. I'm 6'-8" and people look at me as if I'm a monster or something. I'll be the first to admit that I am no Hollywood heartthrob yet I'm not Sloth from the Goonies. 🙃
One thing I try to remember. It's mind over matter. Pay them no mind because they don't matter.