What does love feel like?
I'm not sure where else to ask this question.
But i genuinely want to know what it feels like. I know i have been dreaming of it since i was a child. I have yet to experience it a single time in my 30+ years of being on this horrible planet.
I want to know if its worth it. Is my imagination just wrong? Does love even exist? What does it feel like?
If i imagine someone loving me it makes me happy. Sometimes i dream about it and it feels amazing.. that is until i wake up of course.
I wish for it so much that i think my whole life evolves around it... I'm not sure if that is even normal anymore.
@eternallyworthless There are different types of love, so it all depends on which one you're talking about. For me, the deepest love would be Godly love. ♡ Love is beautiful and it's also an act that we have to choose to do. I'm a wife and mother so the love I have for husband is deeper and stronger than the love for my kids. After all, my husband is mine while I know my kids will eventually grow and leave me. When I love, I love hard and I like to show it. Love should be felt and shown in such a way. Love should make you want to be better. Love should be truly unconditional, in my opinion. It's taking the good and bad. It's not always magical. Sometimes it requires work and sometimes loving others can be so hard because, at the end of the day, many of us are broken. We all deserve to be loved and I am not speaking romantically either, though romantic love is very important too. I'm sorry if you feel like you have not been loved. Aside from my God above, I believe that our mothers/parents are our first love. Parents should have taught us an example of what a loving, healthy relationship looks like--- ideally. I know it's not always the case though. I hope that one day you find someone to love you without conditions and accepts you as you are!
@YourCaringConfidant
I hope you don't take offense when i say that i don't believe in any god. Therefore gods love does nothing for me. If a god would exist he wouldn't let me suffer like this or other people for that matter.
Parental love is something that is hard for me to feel. I always have the underlying grudge for my parents that they put me into this world all alone. No sister, no brother and no relatives that give a single *** about me. One day not too far from now i will be all alone.
Romantical love is what i haven't felt a single time in my life. I can only imagine how wonderful it would be to be someones favorite person. To have someone wanting to spend time with me day and night...
I'm glad you didn't put your kids into this world alone. Give them all your love, i'm sure they will have a good life. :) You sound like a great mother.
@eternallyworthless I certainly did not take any offense from anything you said. I accept people as they are. It's totally ok that you do not believe in God. I know many people do not and I have family who share in that, as well. That is why I am careful with my words to not overstep anyone's belief. That's why I included the word my. I'm so sorry you feel like you were brought into this world and feel all alone with no one close to form close bonds with. I believe the number of kids people have is not in their control always but how nice it would have been if you maybe had a sibling. Eternally, I do not think you are worthless and never will you be. You are human. Your life is valuable and precious and you are worthy of happiness and romantic love that you so badly yearn for. You know how people say there is someone for everybody? I do believe it's true. I hope that when your time comes that you find a partner who treats you with the utmost love and respect. I hope that you get to experience that fresh love while even going through an infatuation phase where you are their everything and they can't get enough of you. I hope that in return you are able to give that same love back and be the one to make someone happy. Things happen within time and while I empathize that you are missing and yearning for these, I hope you do not give up hope. ♡
@eternallyworthless
I'd ask what kind of love. For a long time I was expecting romantic/sexual love to be around the corner for me. Though later, I asked people around me and turned out they were way ahead. I'm now heading into my mid 20s and still nothing. Its called being aro/ace (aromatic/ asexual).
Though for me that also means that as much as the abstract idea of being with someone feels nice, the moment I start imagining details, it goes bad. I can't see myself being with any specific person. If that sounds familiar, I'd recommending investing more in friends and 3rd person romance novels. Unlike those romantics, aros don't have the whimsy ruined by real world experiences.
(Also aces tend to be more involved in kinks. Which have very nice and friendly communities where you can build proper positive relationships.)
@helpfulGrapefruit3390
I don't think that's it. I can feel romantic interest for others its just always one sided.
I do wish i'd be asexual so it could spare me all that trouble to be honest.
I will still look into it. thank you!
@eternallyworthless In that case, a change in external factors may be in order. For that though, first you need a rest. Cool off so you can try with a good state of mind while keeping that factor in mind. You probably know how just keeping something in the back of your mind can make things change around you.
