@Lonelypetvet
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;
I just want get this off my chest. I am thirty years old and cant make a romantic relationship work. (This is something I have seen quite a lot in other people as well. It's hard to know how a relationship work or how it should be if you didn't see how a healthy and loving relationship looks like). Every relationship I have ever been in is all peachy for the first couple months, the honeymoon phase, and then after that the significant other never develops feelings from me past being a friend. (I wish you could have say more about this part, but there's a few reasons I could think of that lead to this which are; 1) If you are communicating the relationship vibe (it's going to make her back away if she is not ready), 2) If you are opening up too much about your past such as rejections, disappointments etc (This should wait until a connection is built and it should be done after 6-7 months slowly), 3) If you tell her how you feel when she has not show signs or subtle hints that she likes you (This will make her back away and she will bring up the "lets be friends" speech. 4) If you don't go for the kiss (This will make her feel uneasy and strange, and will think you don't have the confidence and then it'll turn her off), 5) If you tell her about how much money you make, your work, esentially trying to prove yourself and seek her validation (This will turn her off), and other reasons, but those are the ones coming to mind). No matter how hard I try they never develop strong emotional feeling for me. (You are trying too hard, which tells me you are very eager to receive love, which makes communicate that to her during texts, calls, body language dates and then they will pick up on it which will make them turn off). First off I am 30 years old, why cant I make a relationship work past 3 or 4 months? I dont want to be alone forever. (This mindset will make you act more eager, she will pick up on it and then she will back away which will make you text her too much) Second it is very frustrating that every time I get comfortable with someone and start to trust them,(Trusts actually should start much after four months when you take the time to know her and then leading to a relationship, but you are trusting very fast which will make you open up too fast to the point they will back away) he is always done with me. Thirdly, why am I so unlovable? (No one is unloveable, its just you internalized them leaving with "Im unloveable", because you truly want to feel love and validated, however you got to think about the other person as well. If you enter a relationship, then you'll place unmet needs on them and will cling to them for validation. It's very important to overcome your past before attempting a relationship. A relationship is meant to enrich you, not complete you or making it your source of happiness)
