I want to talk about this. I know there isnt sth I can do
so there's this guy. In a forum about self-development and stuff.. Let's call him J-. He used to visit my profile back in February when he first signed up. I'm an older member there. I figured why does he visit me so often? Then all of a sudden,he sent me and said hi,so I replied,we are both from the same country. He then asked for my Facebook account so we can chat by DM. I said I dont have one,but I had an anonymous for "stalking" once in a while if it was necessary. I gave his this one. Then he said if I want to meet him in person. I was not sure because I knew almost nothing about him and I couldn't trust. We met in March-April. Can't remember exactly. Until then we also went for a coffee and studied together in library - back in June. This was the last time we saw each other. From this time on something broke in me, and I'm sure he feels the same too. As the time passes we talk less and less. Messages were never frequent but now are so rare. I dont want to change with him especially because he doesn't show interest as much I've tried .
Its sad but theres nothing i can do. I have no hope about this. Why human relationships have to end?
don't want to chat* (not change)
my guess its because its online i am sorry that your upset over this
@kitkat34567
Thank u for your reply.
It warms up my heart when I get that people care even for a little bit about me.
Do you mean exactly ? Online isn't for everyone? Do you mean that if it wasnt online he would show more interest?
It hurts me so much,but the only way is to let go now.
@Popitzik its not for everyone i been ghosted by guys due to my lack of non virbal cues so i learned that not every guy is looking for a relationship some just want hook ups which is not my thing.
@kitkat34567
I respect it that some guys just want hook ups.
I was just interested for general discussion/hangout/get to know him,maybe be friends with him. I never liked him as a man,cause I dont find him attractive at all (but that doesn't mean that he is not good enough for other girls. Everyone should have their match)
The fact that hurts me is that he didn't even gave me chances /show interest to just go for a coffee. I don't like to be around those kinds of people because I wanna feel accepted,and with him I feel rubbish. But u just dont get it,why a person doesn't want to get to know you when they initially proposed for the first meet up. Its so strange. I've never had people in my life that seem so uninterested to me and me not being able to know the reason why.
It hurts me also because , as much ive tried to accept this rejection - I couldn't,and I started thinking so negative about them (And myself,for example who's to blame ) and I tried to fix things and couldnt. This person isnt so talkative with me. I dont wanna text him cause I feel bad around him - I feel that he doesn't want me in his life, and I only get this feeling so strong with this person. I'm friendly with whoever i meet, I like meeting new people,but this one was a huge fail. I can't accept his attitude but I can't change it either. I don't wanna be manipulative cause I like when people are free and happy. But this one,really, I'd rather never talk again to this person .....
Its better to never know if he likes me or not (and if not then why) ...rather than trying again and getting no outcome. Its cumbersome and he doesnt deserve me after all..so many chances for nothing . I must move on but also its hard.
@Popitzik don't feel bad i had to unmatch someone recnetly i just told him i am not really stable enough for a relationship even though i am like really lonely but i just felt uncomfortable when he asked that out of the blue.
@kitkat34567
Although you unmatched him,for me its kinda the opposite cause I feel rejection from him .
There are so many nice,good looking guys out there,and I just havent unmatched him yet lol
Choices,so many. He is tr*sh to me anyways. Why would anyone be that kind of cr*p? Lol
I mean, I'm a nice person good looking,and I expected nothing but his friendly interest. Ugh,literally yesterday I had so much fun going out with my friends,that literally now this doesn't bother me so much because I had fun. Maybe my main goal would be to actually have some much fun that ain't any left for him and not being able to do think about this situation. Life's too short right?
@Popitzik i don't know what else to tell you just have to move on
