As much as i HATE to admit this, but I am in my early 30's & I have a hard time communicating my feelings to my family.
I have been with my boyfriend for just under 11 months & there have been times (like this weekend for example) where it was easier for me to stay over at his house. My boyfriend isn't even the one to say anything, HIS PARENTS have said if i wanted/needed to stay over anytime, I could. I have brought this up to my mom, but all my mom says is "your father is uncomfrtable" & when I asked her why, she said "He has done the same with your sisters" Not remembering that BOTH my sisters moved away for college/university & I am still living at home, with no job & a man whom I have a VERY strong connection with & it pains me to be away from him, living 30 minutes away. I have severe anxiety just thinking of all this & the thought of having to "confront" my father about this is, I'm already getting anxious & emotional.
My boyfriend & I have made a new plan where (work permitting) we will spend the whole weekend together (Fri-Sun) Which mean alternating sleepng at eachothers house. Tha's another thing- I am 30 (yes I feel this is poignant in my situation to remind of age) I asked my older sister for advice & she doesn't understand how at our age we aren't allowed to sleep in the same room together when/if my boyfriend sleeps over. When we first started dating I remember 2-3 times my boyfriend stayed over, but he had to stay in the spare room- Although, in my defence, I actually did sneak into the spare room & slept with my boyfriend a few hours & going back into my room before everyone woke up.
THIS BEHAVIOUR IS NOT NATURAL FOR A 30 YEAR OLD, but I don't know how to remedy the issue. My boyfriend said if this gets any worse, either he OR his parents will hve to talk to my father & by all means, I will DEFINITELY allow someone else to take a stab at this situation.
I mean I kind of know both my boyfriend & my parents have met BRIEFELY at 2 of my family funerals- Our parents are somewhat different in age, but we just wish that both sides would get along & want to have more get togethers to become more aquainted OUTSIDE funerals, preferably just the 6 of us in a public restaurant, but we can't seem to plan it right with tIming before/during the holidays.
I am ALSO personally struggling with finding a job. I would like to find my "forever" job, but everyone else is just saying I need to find a job NOW to get some income & so that I can HOPEFULLY move in with my boyfriend. I just personally don't want to SETTLE just to get an income, but I have more anxiety staying in my current career path because my previous experinence wasn't a good one.
....... VERY CONFUSING TIME!!!!!!!! :'(