Am i manipulative?
I dated this guy called aaron. we are currently ex’s but still like eachother. Everytime we get into an argument which involves our feelings he brings up the fact im manipulative. This has honesty made me doubt myself alot and i feel horrible about it as it was never my intention to manipulate.
Basically at one stage we didnt go out the whole month and he called me a sh— gf and it hurt me. after bottling up for 2 days i sent him a paragraph about the situation and included “im sorry for being a *** gf”. and he mentioned it was a bit manipulative.
The second situation was when we were breaking up. I was in tears and wasnt really thinking about what i was saying. He told me he doesnt think its going to work and the arguments are just too much. i practically begged him to try make it work (alot of regret but i wasnt thinking) and he was very hesitant about this. (left me on opened for 3 minutes) so i responded “its fine”. And he told me that this was manipulation. i see his point of veiw on how it could be manipulative but i just didnt want to force the relationship.
Now he is telling me it wasnt those 2 times i was manipulative. it was all the time. i asked for an example and he told me to have some common sense and that he cant remember everything.
I promise i had no intention of manipulating him and i feel horrible about it. please help