Masturbation

I know how you feel. It is hard to not do the M once you start...I have a hard time resisting it myself. It's not bad for you, though, as long as you don't do it in a way that could damage your sexual organs. Just be careful, and make sure your hands (or whatever else you use) are clean. Some experts say that the M is actually the safest type of sex there is, because you don't have to worry about getting pregnant, and diseases are less likely. However, you should try not to do it too much, as you can develop sores.

I hope this helps.

@Yourenotalone123

It sounds like you are feeling anxious about masturbation and frustrated with your reliance on porn to have an orgasm.

Masturbation is very healthy, especially when you are first figuring out your sexuality. 95 percent of women masturbate. Humans have been doing it since we have been humans, and in fact, long before that too--many animals masturbate. People as young as 5 and as old as 95 have masturbated. It is an age-old, totally free way of relieving stress and horniness.

Most women learn to orgasm through masturbation. Masturbation is a really important way people learn about their bodies and sexualities.

Like anything, it can get in the way of your long-term goals and happiness if you become dependent on it. If you are concerned about this, ask yourself things like: Do I (on a regular basis) masturbate instead of spending time with good friends? Is my masturbation affecting my academic performance?

For many, watching porn greatly increases and speeds up their ability to orgasm. That is the norm.

Porn is not wrong in itself. Maybe the kind of porn you are watching makes you uncomfortable. If that's the case, look around for porn that turns you on sexually and intellectually. There's lots out there! Maybe the kind of porn you are watching is genuinely unethical, eg someone is being coerced into performing. If that's the issue, look around for porn you like that documents every performer's consent.

Nevertheless, remember that the fantasies that turn you on do not reflect your actual sexual preferences. People like to fantasise about strange stuff. That does not mean they actually want to do that stuff.

Even if you cannot have an orgasm without porn (for now), it won't be more difficult for you than for any other woman to have an orgasm with a sex partner.

If you want to learn to masturbate without porn, you can do it, although it might take a little while. There are lots of resources for learning to masturbate online.

Nothing is wrong with you. You have not ruined anything for yourself. There is nothing to fix, just things to explore if you want to.

Read Is Masturbation Okay? and everything else on the Scarleteen website. It is brilliant.

@Yourenotalone123

Masterbation is healthy

It's stimulateing

It gets headaches away because pleasure is a natural pain relief (if you didn't know)

It's relieves stress

It rejuvinates your body

And it helps you relieve any pent up sexual tension so you won't feel so out to get it all the time

I hope this helps

Masterbating is more scientific than most peoplw think

I masterbate when I'm frustrated... Because in my life just don't care anymore when I can't find love I go in the bathroom and master bate.... Or I'll just watch porn on my laptop and then master bate I lost a lot of friends because of this😭😭 but I just can't stop I love doing it. It me feel good... And like I'm in charge... And people don't even wanna speak to me...

I would consider as an option engaging in phone sex with a stranger, so you can really express yourself. no video chat I mean just vocal mutual masturbation with an anonmous partner over a regular phone conversation @Yourenotalone123