What to do

@KindPear

Self-Sabotage is an interesting mental script. It's destructive and tends to end happiness, relationships, and prevent you from enjoying anything around you. It can talk you out of amazing experiences, loving relationships, and is isolating.

Your ability to not only get a grip on when that mental script is running is critical but so is coming to terms with any of your other mentally ill conditions. If you're fully aware, then you at least have a firm understanding as to how it tends to manifest itself. In this way, you can then work to end those scripts, find better ways to cope, and examine situations around you in a very different way.

Are you out of love or unhappy with your partner? Have you taken a relationship inventory? It's easy to dwell on the negative. What are the pros/cons of your current situation? How does this person compare to those in your past? How healthy is your present relationship? Ask yourself better questions, to get to the heart of the issues themselves.

I think a lot of us look for perfection in life, and that is not only impossible, depressing, anxiety-inducing but impossible as a goal. It's never attainable. So, examine your present situation and determine if your relationship is supporting you, meeting your needs, and is helping you to become a better person. If you need therapy, then don't be afraid to take that step, because sometimes talking things out can help you to make better choices when you are able to get those thoughts out of your head and examine them objectively.

If it turns out that you've done all the work and you're not happy, then - break it gently, move on.