It's so much harder to keep a relationship going when you're older.
I always lived with the assumption that relationships would become slightly easier as you aged. I felt that all the emotionally charged situations, the raging hormones, the extreme jealousy would lessen as one ages. But my assumptions are totally, completely, and immutably wrong. It is just as hard. Especially when someone is so deeply involved in the jealousy aspect. Even coming to Cups is suspect. I don't know if I can stay with someone who exhibits such fits or bouts of jealousy over a mental health site.
I used to think some jealousy is healthy; especially when I was younger. Small amounts of it are ok with me. But when someone feels that every site you go to you are cheating on them, well, I think it's time to re-evaluate the situation. At my age I'm not as malleable or fluid as I was when in my teens to early 30's. I guess I'm a cockeyed optimist; I still hope to meet someone I can be compatible with, mesh with, and live a contented life with.
I needed put this in writing because sometimes just saying it is not enough for it to get through to me. Thanx for reading/listening to me everyone. ❤️
@xandia
Aww it is indeed difficult being with someone who makes us question the very foundations of trust, respect and communication in a relationship.
I hear you're having conflicting emotions about your partner feeling jealous for anything you do, it feels rather emotionally-paralyzing and limiting being in a sticky situation as this one.
Re evaluating sounds fair, you're allowed to choose *you* and make the kinder-choice for yourself always. ❤
What are your thoughts about communicating how you feel about the same with your partner, Xan? I do hope they can understand how important it's to trust each other and respect personal boundaries in the relationship.
Glad you could find this space to share how you feel. Sending comfort your way. ❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Thanx so much for responding to me. I sometimes wonder if I'm the one at fault. But you make a great case for what I'm going through. I've approached him on numerous occasions to see if we could come to some kind of compromise but the discussion always ended up back with me being unfaithful; either in real time or on the internet. I remain hopeful that we can discover a way to resolve whatever is really bothering him but as time goes on it becomes evident that this may just not happen now or in the future.
I will continue to work on a resolution to this issue until I feel there's no longer a reason to put myself through the rigors of tense discussion and debate. It does become tiring after a while trying to get my point across time and time again. I so appreciate you responding to my post. You always give me great insight into what I should examine. Thank you again sun! ❤️ ✨ 🌟 🌺 🌸
@xandia
Aww I feel it's common for many of us to find faults within when something doesn't go well, being self-critical is unfortunately a quicker response to things at times. :')
I'm so glad this insight helped you look through a different perspective too and no worries at all hehe, always happy to respond and support where I can. ❤️
I truly hope y'all can come to a middle ground and things improve, at all times, know that you aren't alone and we can get through, one day at a time.❤️