Is being single weird :(

@Amethystos no it's not weird at all and if it is then you're not alone, I'm weird too :p. You should never force yourself to be with someone cause the only thing that will give you is pain and loneliness and trust me it's the worst to end up with people that makes you feel lonely. If you're happy on your own then I say just be yourself, I like that too but I understand it can be upsetting to see other's your age enjoy and post about their happy relationship and it's normal to feel that way also not everything you see on social media is true, the grass is always greener on the other side :)

@Amethystos

Hi, I can relate to this a lot as I come from a similar culture that values marriage greatly. I am already considered on the verge of entering the danger zone cause I am approaching my late 20s and still single. I can see it in my mom's eyes and among my single friends - will our turn come?

I find it really hard to find a man I am physically attracted to, and things cannot progress for me without that physical attraction. I also get turned off really easily by certain behaviors. Sometimes I feel like there's something wrong with me especially when I see others getting married and writing beautifully romantic quotes about each other under equally romantic photos, and it makes me wonder: why don't I have the same?

At the same time, I know that being single is just a social status. So is being in a relationship, married, etc. However, being single is not worse or better than being married/partnered. It just is what it is. I also know that happiness and peace do not come along with the married stamp. I am trying to take this phase of life to cultivate happiness on my own. I think we all will benefit from knowing that someone else will not bring us happiness. No one is coming to save us. If anything, they're just another flawed human being, like us, looking for connection and love, and I think this releases us, and, them from so much relationship stress.

I do agree that its important to put yourself out there or at least make yourself available to dates and meeting someone if you do want to be married. If anything those dates will be a learning experience for you. I also think its very important for you to keep in the forefront of your mind the answers to: why do you want to be married? what does marriage mean to YOU? Not what the society or family wants for you, but what you think is the point of marriage.

I think that sadly in our cultures, there is a lot of emphasis on marriage as the event, that one night, sealing the deal, and not enough on a happy married life. I sadly don't see enough happy married faces.

Thank you for reading this far. I needed to let my thoughts out so thank you for creating this thread. There's nothing wrong or weird about you being single. Not even being unhappily single is worth being unhappily married. I encourage you to do what's best for you and to not succumb to the pressures around you - I know it can be very difficult.

@Amethystos

Not at all. I think that's just an old-fashioned, outdated mindset to judge people by their marital/relationship status.

Some people are happier being single, and this is very personal and thus should never be laughed at or forced to change. It's like telling a bird to stop flying and start spending its whole life on land.

Happiness also doesn't depend on relationship status, so go love yourself and chase your dreams because at the end, happiness depends on your personal mindset.

It's not weird at all. In fact, I think it's more normal than we may think. I married young, I was barely 21, and I can say with great certainty that it was way too young for me. We're still together, but being so young we had no idea who we really were as individuals. 20+ years later I live with a mountain of retreat. Stay single and enjoy your life, the right person will come your way and you'll never turn back.

I live in the United States and say don’t get in a relationship if you don’t want to! Don’t get married or have kids if you don’t want to! Wait for when or if you want to and hope that then the opportunity will come to you. These are important decisions that affect you, your lover, and any future children. There was great expectation for me to find someone to marry because of my religion. I married a good man but I was only 22 and I didn’t know what kind of man I wanted to marry besides a good man. He is a great father but I don’t really like him because we are so different and more like roommates who live in the same space but don’t even talk much, watch our separate tv shows, can’t even cook or shop or vacation together and have much fun. If the right person for you comes along, great. But don’t feel like you have to do what everyone else is doing. It’s not their life your have to worry about. Don’t compare your life to others. My friend is 37, same age as me, and she is still not married. She has not found the right person. Me, I married too young and now I want to separate and maybe divorce because I chose the wrong kind of partner: good luck!