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lifeisbeautiful37
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Not “enough”
Relationship Stress / by lifeisbeautiful37
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 April 2nd, 2021
...See more Anyone ever end a marriage that was safe and relatively satisfying but just never seemed to be “enough”? What happened??
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Mentally & emotionally exhausted!!!
Personality Disorders Support / by lifeisbeautiful37
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 February 18th, 2021
...See more I’m 37, almost 38, and I feel like I am almost at my breaking point and I am fearing for my future. I wish I didn’t constantly wonder what I want in my life and who I want to be. Been married almost 16 years and tired of the constant ups and downs between being resigned to a boring but safe and comfortable marriage and wanting to be single or in a more satisfying relationship. Also, a convert of over 20 years to a church and the back and forth between complete belief and skepticism. I feel myself faced with needing to separate or divorce to see what life might have to offer me at this period of my life, but am afraid of the long term consequences. Can anyone relate?
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Need silence but I’m a mom of 3!
Personality Disorders Support / by lifeisbeautiful37
Last post
 February 20th, 2021
...See more I’m about to have another intake evaluation to get a new therapist through insurance and see if I can be evaluated for BPD. In the past I was diagnosed with an unknown mood disorder. My mood can change so rapidly throught the day! I grew up as an only child and always loved being alone. I’m very dependent. Now I’ve been married 16 years and have 3 children. I enjoy silence. I enjoy being alone. I enjoy my own space. I enjoy sleeping alone in my own bed. Being a wife and mom, I can never get enough of silence and alone time. I have been retreating further and further into myself and staying more and more in my bedroom with the door locked. My husband understands. He gives me all the space I need and is a great dad to our kids. Our youngest who is 6 has autism and nearly constantly talks and moves around. Even with a respite provider I can’t get enough alone time. I’m at my best when I am teaching music online to my students and am working on music-related projects. At this point, I feel like I need a long break from everything!!!
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Anyone happily married in a sexless relationship?
Relationship Stress / by lifeisbeautiful37
Last post
 March 7th, 2021
...See more I’ve been married 16 years and want my husband to consider agreeing to have a sexless marriage. For the majority of our marriage, we probably have sex 1-3 times each month. We are both comfortable in our marriage. We enjoy watching tv, going out to dinner and sometimes movies together. I would like more conversation, and he would like more sex. I feel we cannot meet each others needs in these 2 areas, as we have always tried but not succeeded very well. I have been considering a divorce for the past 11 months, and we talked about giving our relationship 4 months to see if we can improve things. After that I told him I may want to take a 2 month break from the relationship to think. We have 3 children (13, 9 and 6). A great part of me would like to divorce and be my own woman again, and either live life on my own terms, or find another man whom I could give all of myself physically to and he emotionally to me. Has anyone on here mutually agreed to a sexless marriage? I’ve heard them described as “parenting marriages”, when the romantic and physical elements of the marriage is put aside and the spouses focus on raising the kids and having a happy home. I am wondering if my husband can give up his desire for sex with me, and if I can therefore give up my desire for an emotional connection with him. This would not be very fulfilling for either of us, but it could take away the expectations we have on each other that we both have not been able to meet. That way we could stay married until our youngest is grown (12 more years), or you never know we may be ok with what we have. Anyone have experience with this, or any thoughts??
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Your thoughts on divorce to find happiness?
Relationship Stress / by lifeisbeautiful37
Last post
 February 1st, 2021
...See more What are your thoughts on divorcing to live an authentic life? I married a good guy 16 years ago and have always felt I am pretending to love him as much as he loves me (even when we got engaged). I find it almost impossible to pretend anymore and am about to make the decision to tell him I want to separate (summer) and then divorce if that is my final decision. I have 3 kids (13, 9, and 6).
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