How Do You Know When to Fight or Let Go?
Hi everyone,
Relationships aren’t always easy, and lately, I’ve been thinking about those tough moments where you’re unsure whether to keep fighting for the relationship or if it’s time to let go. It’s hard to know when to work through issues versus when to accept that things might not change.
🍁 How do you personally decide when a relationship is worth the effort, and when it’s healthier to move on?
🍁 What signs have helped you make that decision in the past?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, stories, or any advice on handling those difficult crossroads.
Looking forward to hearing your experiences!
@dtanushree thank you so much for these questions, dt!
🍁 How do you personally decide when a relationship is worth the effort, and when it’s healthier to move on?
For me, i decide a relationship is worth the effort when i see my partner being willing to put in the effort, too. If the relationship is totally one-sided with no effort from the other party to do something about it, then it is best to move on.
🍁 What signs have helped you make that decision in the past?
One of the signs that helped me make the decision to move on was the amount of unhealthy behavior and unwillingness to understand and work on the issue I noticed from my partner.
Excited to hear everyone else's thoughts, too!
This! I am at this crossroad. How many times do you have the same conversations in different situations that you give up and just remove the other person. And how do you deal with it when you have kids and still live the person but they are an anchor holding you down?
@bubbleDay5184
That sounds really tough, being at such a crossroad where you're torn between love, responsibility, and feeling held back. Repeating the same conversations without change can be draining, especially when you're deeply invested in someone but feel like they’re preventing your growth.
When kids are involved, it becomes even more complicated because you want to balance their well-being with your own needs. Have you considered having a conversation focused on what’s really underneath the surface rather than the same repeated issues? Sometimes, reframing the discussion and focusing on what both of you truly want long-term can open up a different path.
When you still love the person but feel like they’re an anchor, it's important to consider boundaries or compromises that allow for both of you to grow. Have you tried seeking support, like counseling, to create a space where both of your perspectives are heard? That could help in making decisions that consider both your personal fulfillment and the needs of the kids.
What are the primary concerns that you’ve tried to address in these conversations?
@dtanushree I guess, it's an internal vibe you get about whether to move forward in a relationship or close it. We feel it in the interaction whether efforts are being put from the other person or not. And that gives an indication about whether to let go or not.
What do you feel? When do you stop trying and walk off? Are there any indications? Red signals?
@smilingchap
Thank you so much for sharing your views. I agree with you.
I feel like its a natural instinct of "men in love" to express their love to keep their partners happy. If they're not really doing it then perhaps a straightforward communication is important. Even after that if their pattern is doing nothing and then doing something to not let the woman go then they're a red flag.
Actions speak louder than words. So, whoever thinks expressing is difficult then might as well put efforts to find a way which really shows you love.