Family doesnt like boyfriend
I hid my relationship of 3 years from my parents. (We r 23/22)
everyone knows that we are dating except for my parents. we both love each other & no matter what we dont care what people say but the fact that its my mom who is trying to break us apart hurts.
well the thing is, i did introduce my bf to my parents when we first started dating but my mom didn’t like him. And obviously she swayed my dad too. she told me to break up w him and to never bring him home ever again.
its because my bf’s aunt works with my mom and arent in good terms. I guess because they’ve been working together for 20 yrs so my mom rly knows her n her family whom have bad reputations. Ex. Some of my bfs uncles been in and out of jail.
so my mom knows about that but she doesnt care if its the past. She will never accept my bf and his family.
i just hate having to lie to my parents on where im going & whom i’m hanging out with. My boyfriends family treats me like their own daughter but i cant say the same about my parents..
to add, i have very strict asian (filipino) parents. Like to the max. Controlling, i have no privacy etc. they wud yell if i even tried to move out too. It sucks.
@chloebologna Disclaimer: I know there may be some cultural differences, so I can't speak on Filipino family dynamics.
You're 23/22, at some point you are your own person, right? They can yell all they want but at the end of they day this is your life to live. Is this something that, when you are 80, you will look back on and wish you had made different choices?
All that said, I'm glad his family accepts you. Hitching your wagon to people who respect you is always a good move, in my experience.
It's your life, your life. If your parents can't deal with deal, that is their problem. Move out, asap, before they toxicate you even more. If moving out means they break any contact, well, they should behave like loving parents. Time to choose for you and you only.
