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chloebologna
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my ex bf got a new gf after 2 days of the breakup
Relationship Stress / by chloebologna
Last post
 August 25th, 2022
...See more i dont know what to feel. Or what to think. we were together for 3 years. I loved him so much and was a really good girlfriend. he was a narcissist and i didn’t realize it sooner because i was blindly in love with him. we had a multiple arguments which werent even arguments about him not prioritizing our relationship and how he was so emotionally unavailable. He kept promising & lovebombing. So i stayed and hoped to see change. But it never happened.. fast forward to now, he is so comfortable about talking about his love & dating life to me. He literally met a girl on a dating app and started dating her, going to each others houses, etc. its so hard… to let him go. I am still very emotionally attached to him. Its only been 2 days since the break up! We were together for 3 years and he already replaced me with a random girl who he just met. the thing is when we broke up he said lets focus on ourselves and prioritize our finances & work. But he did the complete opposite! Like he keeps on lying to me. He wants to stay friends and in contact with me. I know I shouldn’t because it hurts so much to see that he already moved on to a different girl. i dont want to block him or anything because i still want to check up on him even though he doesn’t care about me. Hes a narcissist and will do anything for validation from anybody. like how do you throw away three years just like that?
Just had a break up w a narcissist + he is my coworker
Relationship Stress / by chloebologna
Last post
 October 12th, 2022
...See more i dont know how to heal from this. my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me. He was a narcissist. He manipulated me into staying until the very last day he kept on making empty promises and lies. Dont have to explain any further. It has only been a week since the break up and hes back dating on tinder. he is also my coworker and it is very hard to avoid him because both of our departments work together. I dont want to quit because of work but he is turning his department against me. I have not done anything wrong. I messaged him to keep it professional and civil at work but he ignored that too. i really don’t know what to do. I am trying to move on and heal. and im angry that i kept giving him chances to fix his bad behaviour.
Boyfriend doesn’t understand
Depression Support / by chloebologna
Last post
 August 2nd, 2022
...See more so today is my birthday (july 29) and my bf asked why i look sad all the time and that i shouldnt be sad on my birthday. & he blames himself for not doing more for my bday but its not that. I’m just depressed and can’t pretend to be happy. Idk like its hard to fake a smile these days. I’ve been dealing with so much stress from work and pressure from my family about school & stuff & him questioning my sadness and why im always down doesn’t help. He hates when im feeling like this or when i push him away. Idk what to do anymore. Nothing cheers me up.
Family doesnt like boyfriend
Relationship Stress / by chloebologna
Last post
 July 25th, 2022
...See more I hid my relationship of 3 years from my parents. (We r 23/22) everyone knows that we are dating except for my parents. we both love each other & no matter what we dont care what people say but the fact that its my mom who is trying to break us apart hurts. well the thing is, i did introduce my bf to my parents when we first started dating but my mom didn’t like him. And obviously she swayed my dad too. she told me to break up w him and to never bring him home ever again. its because my bf’s aunt works with my mom and arent in good terms. I guess because they’ve been working together for 20 yrs so my mom rly knows her n her family whom have bad reputations. Ex. Some of my bfs uncles been in and out of jail. so my mom knows about that but she doesnt care if its the past. She will never accept my bf and his family. i just hate having to lie to my parents on where im going & whom i’m hanging out with. My boyfriends family treats me like their own daughter but i cant say the same about my parents.. to add, i have very strict asian (filipino) parents. Like to the max. Controlling, i have no privacy etc. they wud yell if i even tried to move out too. It sucks.
Social media followings
Relationship Stress / by chloebologna
Last post
 July 20th, 2022
...See more i caught my boyfriend following a bunch of half naked girls on tiktok. i’ve noticed that he followed a couple girls with a lot of vids of them bouncing their stuff around or looking sexual. I didn’t really care at first but then i noticed his followings would grow higher and it would just be a bunch of girls. Its digusting behaviour. Such a red flag right? Like i don’t have a similar body to them which makes me so insecure. Its sad cos in person i would show him like a nice picture of a girl and he wouldnt want to look but he wud look at half naked girls during his alone time. Especially on fcking tiktok? Really? A place where you usually go for jokes or memes! Like go on phub or something jk another red flag 🚩 : when we would say our good nights txts he wouldnt actually go to bed - he wud go back to tiktok because in the morning i wud see that his followings would be higher than the previous night. Which wud be new girls. i already confronted him about it and you know what he said “i admit i do follow a lot of girls but yes it is a guy thing, but lets say its like what you girls do, you follow guys you look and thats all, those are my intentions, but if it does bother you i will gladly unfollow no problem” so i was telling him not to generalize guys and girls. Because i’m talking about HIM. Also when girls follow guys its literally not the same. Like me personally i don’t stalk guys behind my bfs back even if they’re celebrities? (Ok maybe shawn mendes and harry styles.) i told him i’m not stupid and that i know he jerks off to them but he bluntly denied that. like no fucking way. Thats what hurts the most. Like i have so many questions. I feel sick. I dont know what to do. I love him so much or am i blindly inlove with him? We’ve been together for 3 yrs (22/23).. im just so hurt. I dont know how to forgive him. Because he knows how much of an insecure person i am. I dont have a fit body. I’m a little chubby. the fact that he lied saying no he doesnt jerk off to those girls hurts alot
Am i a crazy girlfriend ?
Relationship Stress / by chloebologna
Last post
 July 7th, 2022
...See more Been with my bf for almost 3 years (22-23) we work full time at the same place for almost 2 yrs at a big retail store with various departments. (Even though we do work at the same place, we barely see eachother at work) He claims that he met his “best friends” there who are both girls. (Those two girls are best friends since middle school.) Anyways one of them works in the same department as my bf but i dont really care because she has a boyfriend now and i know my bf only sees her as a little sister. All 4 of us would hang out 2-3 times a month but i would always feel jealous or not included. Maybe because of their close relationship with him. I feel out of place because i’m not close to them. His other “bestfriend” from his department been MIA lately because she has a bf right.. so its only been the 3 of us (the other bestfriend, me n my bf) but when we do hang out i feel like i’m the one third wheeling them. Like he even does his baby talk to her when i thought thats only for me??! He just doesn’t know his boundaries when it comes to those things. in addition, she recently been seeing and talking to my bf’s cousin who she met thru my bf’s bday party. Anyways theyve been talking for over a month now but ive noticed my boyfriend seems jealous over them. Asking her what they do after they hang out n other personal questions like some uncomfortable questions. I already told him this and how i feel. But he just keeps defending himself and not acknowledging my feelings.. says “its more fun with them” so what does that mean? Is he losing feelings? also when i do make plans for the both of us, he would always be like “okay only until this certain time okay?” Or “i have to do this later” But when its with other people he wants to hang out until whenever. He only makes plans with me when he wants to hang out with other people. I’m the only one who actually tries and puts effort into this relationship.
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