Communication skills
My husband of 4 months doesn't get that he needs to communicate with me about things. We agreed that he would work instead of missing time but then gets mad at me cause he doesn't remember what we talked about. Then decides that he doesn't want to talk about it, lies to me about what's going on, and wonders why I'm mad/ sad. He just lied to me and now there are doubts in my head. (I over analyze and am trying to think rationally) I've told him before, that the more info he gives me the less questions I'll ask. I try to plan out things but when I'm missing pieces I feel like I can't plan. Like knowing if he will work or not so I can let my dad to know to come over and help me or not. It's frustrating and I feel like I can't explain to him cause he doesn't want to listen.
@Stargazernow
I understand completely how you feel. Having been married for 15+ years, it is difficult indeed. I know very well that the more precise you can be with what you want, the better. It is better on both sides, it makes it more likely that he can do what you want, but it also gives you something that you can refer back to. I understand about forgetting what is said, and not understanding. I personally would find value to have things in writing so that there can be no debate over what is said. In writing doesn't have to mean a legal contract, but helpful notes can be great.
I understand your feelings most because I am failing myself in so many ways, but I do still (perhaps foolishly) believe there must be a better way. I often fall into "I don't remember" or "I didn't understand" and I know that we would be better off if there were something to refer to in order to settle those.
I don't have any great solutions, I'm sorry. It's difficult, and for me it never stops being difficult, so at least know that your struggles are common and you are not alone. Probably you have better ideas than I do. I believe in you.
