Bringing up the past....
Hi all,
I have a dilemma where I am trying to be positive and keep moving our "getting back together" forward. However, my partner is up and down, hot and cold. They keep bringing up past events where a disareement was had or I was upset (They told me they cheated and was then irritated with me for being upset, insisting they dont want a repeat of those events (upset). I was not the one who cheated but was upset because I care for and love this person. Another time they said they need space to focus on work, but they had been going on dates.) Its the dishonesty and manipulation I am struggling with. I am doing my best to build communication and trust but it is heavily onesided atm and shot down with bringing up the past (we have much more good than bad in our years together but they are highly neurotic and only focus on the negative). They are all over me one day and pushing me away treating melike a stranger the next...I just want some stablility. I am not sure how to approach this tbh....
@IntrovertedOldSoul\
When someone is being a pain in the neck... remember...
It's possible you are both getting caught up in Drama Triangle roles and behaviors.
To learn about the concept see the video below.
It applies to many situations in life, including with one's self and one's own challenges.
The Dreaded Drama Triangle concept was created by a psychiatrist named Dr. Stephen B. Karpman.
This video explains the roles people often take on...
and how to take on different better roles instead.
The video was created for people who are typically rescuers or people pleasers.
But the video also talks about the people who are...
being a pain in the neck and also...
being the victim.
The concepts discussed apply to many situations in life.
Alternative solutions are provided.
@IntrovertedOldSoul\
When someone is being a pain in the neck... always remember...
It's possible you are both getting caught up in Drama Triangle roles and behaviors.
To learn about the concept see the video below.
It applies to many situations in life, including with one's self and one's own challenges.
The Dreaded Drama Triangle concept was created by a psychiatrist named Dr. Stephen B. Karpman.
This video explains the roles people often take on...
and how to take on different better roles instead.
The video was created for people who are typically rescuers or people pleasers.
But the video also talks about the people who are...
being a pain in the neck and also...
being the victim.
The concepts discussed apply to many situations in life.
Alternative solutions are provided.
@IntrovertedOldSoul
When someone is being a pain in the neck... always remember...
It's possible you are both getting caught up in Drama Triangle roles and behaviors.
To learn about the concept see the video below.
It applies to many situations in life, including with one's self and one's own challenges.
The Dreaded Drama Triangle concept was created by a psychiatrist named Dr. Stephen B. Karpman.
This video explains the roles people often take on...
and how to take on different better roles instead.
The video was created for people who are typically rescuers or people pleasers.
But the video also talks about the people who are...
being a pain in the neck and also...
being the victim.
The concepts discussed apply to many situations in life.
Alternative solutions are provided.
TO FORUM MODS:
If you're wondering why there are repeat postings above,
it's because...
the 7cups app kept telling me there was an error
when I tried to post the reply.
So I tried again. And I got the error again and again.
I think the error was being generated by 7Cups because of...
the "\" symbol that got accidently entered after member's name.
Then I deleted the "\" symbol and my reply finally got posted.
Then I saw that the other error posts also got posted.
So it's not my fault there are repeat posts here.
I think it's due to a bug in the 7Cups app software.