Backup Plan-Yes or No ?

@Kingfisher101

I'd just suggest communicating everything rather than holding it in. All thoughts and concerns. You're likely more than just a backup plan, but he may not be fully present right now. It'll take patience if it's going to work. Don't be afraid to set appropriate boundaries either. He definitely needs to know what you're in this for, and what you absolutely expect.

Thank you so much for your reply it means a lot .I recently did just that.I had a good long chat laid it all out there.it was very nerve racking.He took it all in and didn't say much .About a week later he said he needed to talk about something important. He told me he felt a real connection between us and that he missed me when I wasn't around.He also asked if we were to give it a real go and try and have a propper relationship what I would expect.So I told him and he surprised me by saying he wanted to be with me let's give it a go.I asked if he was sure he said yes definitely I've made my mind up I want us to be together. I'm pleased he came to the decision with out me pushing it. Thanks for your reply 👍