Am i a crazy girlfriend ?
Been with my bf for almost 3 years (22-23) we work full time at the same place for almost 2 yrs at a big retail store with various departments. (Even though we do work at the same place, we barely see eachother at work) He claims that he met his “best friends” there who are both girls. (Those two girls are best friends since middle school.) Anyways one of them works in the same department as my bf but i dont really care because she has a boyfriend now and i know my bf only sees her as a little sister. All 4 of us would hang out 2-3 times a month but i would always feel jealous or not included. Maybe because of their close relationship with him. I feel out of place because i’m not close to them. His other “bestfriend” from his department been MIA lately because she has a bf right..
so its only been the 3 of us (the other bestfriend, me n my bf) but when we do hang out i feel like i’m the one third wheeling them. Like he even does his baby talk to her when i thought thats only for me??! He just doesn’t know his boundaries when it comes to those things.
in addition, she recently been seeing and talking to my bf’s cousin who she met thru my bf’s bday party. Anyways theyve been talking for over a month now but ive noticed my boyfriend seems jealous over them. Asking her what
they do after they hang out n other personal questions like some uncomfortable questions.
I already told him this and how i feel. But he just keeps defending himself and not acknowledging my feelings.. says “its more fun with them” so what does that mean? Is he losing feelings?
also when i do make plans for the both of us, he would always be like “okay only until this certain time okay?” Or “i have to do this later” But when its with other people he wants to hang out until whenever. He only makes plans with me when he wants to hang out with other people. I’m the only one who actually tries and puts effort into this relationship.
@chloebologna
First of all, I don't think you're a crazy girlfriend, Chloe.
Your feelings are valid. The thoughts and feelings come from sensory experiences. His actions contributed in the experiences you went through.
Hope things will be better for you soon 🤍
Hi Chloe! You are NOT crazy. This is pretty normal to think imo because I’ve gone through this same thinking process. I’m probably not the right person for advice and I don’t really know you all whatsoever, but if you’re the only one putting the effort into the relationship and you’re overall not happy about what’s going on, then it might be time to move on, especially if there has been no change after discussing the situation already. Maybe try having one more serious talk about it and try to express how you’ve been feeling again, similar to what you’ve done here. You should also ask how he’s been feeling about you and confront him about some things in your mind just so you can clear some of these thoughts away. Try to stay calm during all of this as well. If he’s not willing to understand your situation, then mayyybeee you should try finding someone who’ll put as much effort as you do. You don’t have to follow my suggestion or anything I say at all (I’m not a professional ofc) but just know you are not alone. I do wish the best of luck to you no matter what! You got this!