Why can't i just leave already ?
Why do i keep holding on to hope? For what? It's not even good enough when it was good.
@sympatheticWest110 I think that usually it is fear of the future, fear of being alone. But remember you can rediscover yourself once you jump ship, pull the plug, slip out the back, make a new plan.
She was my instructor when i was 19. We rekindled the relationship about 20 years later and it's just not evolved beyond physical intimacy.
@sympatheticWest110 So you want a deeper relationship with her? What have you done to build that?
Sold my house, moved my kid in with her and her kid, mapped out my day and night schedules around her. Meanwhile she's avoidant. She can be physically intimate without fail, without hesitation. But emotional intimacy is not there for sure. She doesn't mind so long as i do all the work to please her. And i get it, who wouldn't mind being taken care of? But in the meantime im taken for granted.
There's never follow through for long term investment.
@sympatheticWest110 I’m sorry you’re facing this. It sounds really disheartening. Do you have any ideas about what might help you make your decision?
I've done so much. More than i should have. Meanwhile her complaints are things she says she just can't get past. Like she's angry that i would take my kids out shopping. Yet I've taken her and offered for her kid to go shop. The kid refused and she went shopping as long as my kid wasn't there. Basically she's jealous of my relationship with my kid.
@sympatheticWest110 I have a book recommendation for troubled relationships if you’d like.
I'd gladly read it. I'm close to just leaving....no, I'm leaving no matter what. I'd just like to do it in silence. She should be ok with that considering she likes to avoid me anyhow.
That's a good point. I think it's the amount of work to move which has got me stalled, the lack of preferred options to move to and of course the sex here is free, familiar and mostly pleasing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not fulfilled and i feel neglected sometimes but it's the best i can do in this situation. What's your story?
@sympatheticWest110 oh I’ve been in the space of wanting to move on but had things holding me back. Overcoming inertia was really difficult.
