Why can't I open up? How do I change this ?

@sunnyCat7237,

ever considered relationship therapy?

@sunnyCat7237

I know how difficult this can be. For me, I first had to understand what I was feeling myself and accept those emotions. I used a journal and actually had a lot of therapy to be able to accept that I wasn't okay and needed help. Once I figured out how I was feeling, I could share it easier with my partner. 

Another thing that helped us was talking about 'shelving our emotions'. We used to bounce off each other and I didn't want to share anything because it would make my partner down too. But we've worked on 'putting our own emotions on an imaginary shelf' when the other person is feeling low and wants to share. Then, when they are in a better place that person who has shelved their emotions can metaphorically bring them back down and have their turn to open up. 

I hope that helps and you find a way to work through this and open up. You are not a burden by sharing. You deserve to be listened to. I hope you have a wonderful day 💜