Un-hurting the people we love!
There always comes a time in our lives when we accidently hurt the people we love. We can't run to them for saying a simple sorry because we feel ashamed, guilty, and admit it, a little part of our ego takes over. It happens with me too, and it is completely normal.
So, when it happens, I express myself by taking a little time to myself, accept that I did something wrong, admit it face to face with a sorry, hug it our, and if I am too proud to do it, maybe writing a small note, or send a text message full of warmth and sincere apology.
Expressing genuine remorse and seeking forgiveness is indeed a crucial aspect of maintaining healthy relationships. When we unintentionally hurt someone dear to us, it's natural to feel a mix of emotions— shame, guilt, and even a tug of pride that complicates our ability to apologize directly. Your approach of taking a moment to collect yourself, acknowledging the mistake, and then extending a heartfelt apology is commendable.
Sometimes, words spoken face-to-face might seem daunting, especially when emotions are raw. In such instances, a handwritten note or a warm text message can serve as bridges, conveying your sincerity and allowing the other person to process their feelings as well. It shows that you value the relationship enough to admit fault and make amends, despite the discomfort it may initially bring.
The act of hugging it out signifies a willingness to reconnect on an emotional level, fostering healing and reaffirming the bond. It's a physical manifestation of your apology, offering comfort and reassurance that you're committed to moving past the hurt and rebuilding trust.
Remember, humility and empathy are key in these moments. By acknowledging your mistake and expressing genuine regret, you not only mend the immediate rift but also strengthen the foundation of trust and understanding in your relationship. Each apology is an opportunity for growth—for both parties involved—to learn from mistakes and nurture a deeper connection built on mutual respect and forgiveness.
So, tell us how you work it out and unhurt the people you love, because admit it, we are all humans, and we are born to err. But its how we make things right that matters. Right?
@EchoEce17
Your method of apologizing is thoughtful and heartfelt. It's clear you prioritize sincerity and connection in your relationships. How do you navigate the balance between pride and humility when making amends? Would love to hear your insights!
Balancing pride and humility when making amends is like trying to walk a tightrope in high heels, it's a girl phrase, but it's never to late to try heels to get what I mean 😉😉
You need both poise and a sense of humor to pull it off. Here’s how I feel is the best way to balance the both of it.
Admit Your Screw-Up: Own up to what you did without blaming your cat, the weather, or that weird planetary alignment. It's all on you, my friend.
Feel Their Pain: Try to put yourself in their shoes, even if they're not your size or style. Understanding their feelings shows you’re genuinely sorry and not just trying to get back in their good graces.
Plan Your Apology: Think about what you want to say. Rehearse it if needed, but don’t come off like a robot reading a script. Authenticity is key. Sprinkle in a little charm but keep it real.
Listen Up: Once you've said your piece, zip it and listen. They might need to vent, and that’s part of the process. Resist the urge to defend yourself or explain too much. If they're important, it's important to hear them out too.
Offer to Make Things Right: Show you're willing to make amends in a tangible way. Whether it’s buying them coffee for a week or helping them with something they need, actions often speak louder than words.
Laugh at Yourself: Sometimes, a bit of self-deprecating humor can lighten the mood and show you’re not taking yourself too seriously. It doesn't mean degrading yourself but judt a little laughter can clear up the clouds of seriousness. Also, don’t overdo it. This isn’t a stand-up routine.
Learn and Grow: Finally, take the lesson to heart. Making amends isn’t just about fixing the past but also about becoming a better version of yourself for the future.
Also, I believe if you feel guilty about it even a little bit, you're wrong and pride should never win. Because everytime you let it win, you let go a bit of yourself. So just own up and be proud of it! You can also treat yourself for doing something great. This can be your good day for the day too. ❤️ ❤️
@EchoEce17 Hey there <3 Hope you are doing well, I look forward to your posts *-* as they are very well written, thoughtful and heartfelt :)
" physical manifestation of your apology " Love that ^^ Mine is usually food or some sort of art thing that I put time and effort in making anddd I try to be extra nice too :D Genuinely apologizing for something that you regret and that weighs heavy on your soul can be so freeing, it makes you feel so light.
Well that's really a great thing to do. I'm sure people fight with you to just get a piece of your creativity and your soul. I wish I could get one too... Hey, now I'm being a bit selfish. Right??
On a truthful note, that's really a great thing to do. Customising your apology. Good point to add to my favourites. ❤️❤️
And yes, I'm doing well. Hope you are too ❤️❤️
@EchoEce17 I am <3 and glad to know ^-^
