Spouse of sexual abuse survivor
(Female 33) I just really need somebody to talk to who has been through something similar. My wife has been through a lot of sexual abuse and she’s not interested in having a sexual relationship anymore. That’s completely understandable and I’m not judging her or angry with her for that. I was very clear with her that I would never leave her over that. I just feel kind of lost now. Sex was an important part of our relationship for me and I can’t talk about this with my wife.
@MDF7
I can relate! My partner was sexually abused and I'm also struggling with the impact it has on me. In my case it is slightly different because my partner believes they are over it and everything is fine. But we can't have an open conversation about intimacy. There's definitely something wrong. I don't know if it is me, them, or both, but until we can talk about it, nothing will get resolved. I find it so hard, because the desire doesn't go away, but there's no way I can enjoy anything until the discomfort between us is resolved. I'm so afraid of the thought that maybe it will never get resolved.
For now I have decided to work on myself. Anything I can do to normalise the subject can only help.
But yes, if we can share ideas on how to manage the frustrations, then I'm happy to talk.
Love and best wishes
Thank you for responding! I think it will help a lot to talk to somebody who can relate. Is there a way to send private messages on here, I’m new on this app.
@MDF7,
you can't send private messages over here neither can you contact someone directly.
Thanks for letting me know. Yeah I realized I can only talk privately with someone who is a listener.
@MDF7 the person who responded to you is a listener you only have to click on the pic and it will take you to the profile where you can see a "message" button
