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Should it matter?

Stargazernow May 9th

I owe money to a credit card company. I want to keep it open since it will be my only card that I have that is based on my old income since I'm now a stay at home mom. My parents offered to help but I didn't set anything in stone with them. Just got an idea of what payments would be today. I started mentioning it on the phone to him about how they offered and that I may take them up on it. I thought I was doing a good thing by not getting us more broke since my husband is paying off his debt collectors s and mine. One is a law firm that was suing us. He got mad and has decided to not help. He even told me to move out, but it's my house, and go live with my parents. I told him I thought I was taking some burden off by letting my parents help but if we really can afford it then can we pay. No he said. My parents are moving in with us in late June, I asked if we could take over then, he said no. I told him that they are paying 700 to help with bills and that should free up 700 for us. I told him I just feel like I don't pull my weight since I'm not contributing to the money. He pointed out that I should be helping out at home. I admit I have been lacking there. But I have been slowly cleaning around here more and doing things I have putting off. But I also told him it's pretty un-mormon of him, he's a priest, that he's not willing to help me and being petty since I didn't talk to him first and I was trying to fix it and was trying to talk to him about it. He said since I'm not in his religion I can't use it. I said even if you're family isn't in the religion, shouldn't kindness still apply to them? I feel sometimes with how he treats me that he's not exactly leading or seeing a good example as a priest. He started telling me to go to church to learn how to be a woman and learn my place. I thought church was to spread the word of God? How are they gonna help me clean? Besides I don't want to be Mormon and I know I can do this myself. I just bothers me how I'm dependent on him and he knows it but still won't help because he got mad. I think I'm depressed. I feel so down. I probably shouldn't have brought up religion but I thought it would help him to see how it's so against it with what he's doing.

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toughTiger6481 May 12th

@Stargazernow

No it should not matter..... did you deal with it before marriage... I am surprised that given his role he was willing to marry out of the faith. He seems to expect you to be the wife / mom he expects from childhood and under his religion.   

Finances are a big issue and your parents moving in and the extra money can help speed up debt payoff but you need to be on same page on all of it or it will be like a sliver taht can fester and become infected.