Should I unfollow? (Breakup after 4 1/2 years)
Hi everyone!
below is the context to the breakup that i’ve posted before:
“my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me officially over text earlier. We were meant to just be on a break to reassess because he wanted to break up, and then we were going to meet up in person to speak to each other after a month.
Well... he sent me a whole paragraph earlier officially ending things, saying he's sorry and that there's nothing wrong with me but he can't be there for me emotionally and mentally. He said he doesn't regret the 4 1/2 years and thinks its best that we don't meet up in person anymore..
I haven't replied and I may never reply because the past few days I really started to see him in a different light. The amount of times i've tried to justify his behaviour towards me, the effort I poured in when I barely got even the bare minimum and then the disrespect when he told me he wanted to break up a few days before i leave for my home country for the month when he knows I haven't been home in over 5 years.” I posted this a month ago.
now he’s making new songs and posting a lot compared to when we were in a relationship, and it doesn’t bother me that he’s writing love songs because I don’t know who it’s about to be honest but I’m not sure if I should unfollow or block him? The way he ended the relationship was a disrespect towards me and I use that as my closure now. I’m asking this because I feel like I shouldn’t really keep his energy around, I feel like he thinks i’m okay with things ending the way they did because I didn’t unfollow or block him?
if anyone can offer advice because i’m torn right now, there’s a part of me that wants to leave him unblocked so he can see my posts and maybe regret what he’s done (I rarely post though so Idk if that even matters) but then there’s a part of me that would rather just leave everything behind and not keep things open, because he still has access to me when maybe he shouldn’t?
so it’s pretty conflicting… i hope someone understands why im torn about this lol
Hi @intuitivePenguin4529✨ Thank you for sharing - I do understand you and humbly suggest that you move on… that thought that tells you to leave him in the past and continue with your life is the best one: you can post for yourself or your friends, not for him, and you don’t need to see what he is up to, unfriend, block, leave him in the past
I feel that he was extremely disrespectful ending a long relationship the way he did, you did not deserve that
You deserve to be happy and smile and feel good again ✨
All the very best 🌟
Thank you so much for this message I really appreciate it 🥹 you’re absolutely right. I think I was leaving things a bit too open when he should have been blocked after what he did.
i decided to delete him off everything instead of blocking him but now he’s completely out of sight out of mind and I feel a lot of relief now ☺️