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Separation and legal divorce

1in8billion April 22nd

I’ve been separated for about 6-7 years now. We have both moved on in our lives doing our own thing and co-parented our two kids who are legal adults now. In my mind there no intentions of getting back with but we are still legally married on paper. We have both been too preoccupied with our lives that we just haven’t gone to that step yet.

When it comes to moving on, how do (specifically women) see the legal part of not being fully/legally divorced? Some see it as still being married and that it’s wrong if you start seeing someone no matter how long you’ve been apart.

We are some of your thoughts on this?

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dukeofdearham April 22nd

@1in8billion,

I think most possible partners would feel like you would not be fully there for them. Like, "if you love me, then prove it by getting divorced". 

I don't think it's so much legal aspects. I think it's more about needs, expectations, emotions.

Having said that, is there any reason you guys should not get divorced?

toughTiger6481 April 22nd

@1in8billion

if you have moved on and it is on paper only... are you having issues with being rejected from new interests or just speculating? 

 I know a few older folks who have no issue dating/ living together etc without marriage .....so they can be and stay independent. They have no interest in the contract of marriage for various reasons. 

If you had someone you felt strongly about perhaps you can finish some paperwork but that is your business to decide. 


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1in8billion OP April 25th

It’s a bit of both. I’ve been seeing some new for a few

minths now. She is in the same boat as I am. Still legally married but separated for a few years now. We recently had a somewhat deep discussion about the status of our relationship and she ironically brought this up saying maybe we shouldn’t be getting into anything serious unless our papers are finalized. It just got me thinking more than anything.

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