Old ex husband came back
Hello!
Let me get straight to the point. My ex husband came back all of the sudden a month or two ago, hitting me with a lot of stuff at once.
He never got my name off of the apartment we once shared and now got taken to court over it (I had to pay money for him to stay through the lease but he’s paying back the remaining amount owed), lost his job, during our entire marriage he was a secret alcoholic, went to the BHU for a “attempt”, and that he managed to get himself charged with a couple of felonies (for reasons I will not be discussing but just know it’s in relation to the drinking).
I originally was happy to just know he was alive and in a serious of bad calls, “spent the night with him”. We set boundaries about being romantic today because he was rude to me so that part won’t happen again.
I have stuck around to make sure that the apartment gets paid off but I’m mixed with my feelings. We are waiting to see what happens to him in terms of court or jail so I know how to proceed with getting this apartment off my back.
I’m angry, confused, sad, and I’m sure something else I can’t remember. I know that this situation is a bit wild but any sort of advice or even kind words would be so helpful.
@Amov
I am sorry you are having to deal with this.
My advice is to take care of this on your own. He was supposed to take you name off before and instead left you on so you had to pay up. You are not the first will not be the last to have an EX not follow through and remove a name from lease or other debts most do not know until like you they are on hook for $$$$$
Talk to the apartment management or such and inform them you are NO longer responsible for any further money and take your name off lease. you may need to consult legal advice if they do not want to let you off lease. It sounds like he has made bad choices and getting involved again will only cost you in many ways being hurtful and they may not care how much $$ they cost you with their actions. He was an EX for a reason remind yourself of that.
We may wish them the best but we are not their parachute from problems
I really appreciate that. I went to court to speak with the lawyer and was advised that “your name was on the lease so you are also responsible”. I am not sure what I could do to get my name fully uninvolved at this point.
@Amov
Was this mentioned in divorce? some states you can send a letter informing place you will NOT be responsible for debts incurred by your EX. read up on tenant/ landlord rules/ laws in your area. this is a common issue many have to deal with.
