Navigating ignorance
A: Hey, how was your day? Planning to come home soon?
B: Hectic, stressed, a lot to take in I guess.
A: Okay, I hear you.
B: Why did you call?
A: Just a check in...
B: Okay, I'll hang up then. Talk to you later!
We all face times and moments when we feel ignored. The conversation is just an example. It can affect life of an individual drastically. Feeling ignored can be incredibly isolating and can impact our sense of self-worth.
In moments like these, it’s easy to internalize those feelings and think, “Am I not important enough?” or “Do they even care?”
But, it’s crucial to recognize that communication is a two-way street. Sometimes, the other person might be overwhelmed or preoccupied, which isn’t a reflection of our value. However, these feelings can still weigh heavily on us.
When we feel dismissed, it can lead to anxiety, frustration, or even sadness. It’s important to acknowledge these emotions and understand that they’re valid.
Seeking clarity in communication can help—expressing how we feel can open up a dialogue and foster understanding. Additionally, self-care and self-reflection can be beneficial. Engaging in activities that affirm our worth, surrounding ourselves with supportive people, and practicing mindfulness can help counteract those negative feelings.
Remember, our worth is not determined by others' attention or acknowledgment; it’s inherent and deserves to be recognized.
Ultimately, building resilience against feelings of being ignored can empower us to advocate for ourselves and strengthen our connections with others.
When I feel ignored or undervalued, I focus on a few key strategies to cope.
- First, I acknowledge my feelings, allowing myself to experience the hurt or frustration without judgment.
- If I feel comfortable, I reach out to communicate how I feel, as a simple conversation can often clear up misunderstandings.
- Practicing self-compassion is crucial; I remind myself that my worth isn't determined by others' actions, and engaging in self-care activities helps me reconnect with my value.
- I also make time for hobbies and activities I love, as spending time with supportive friends can provide perspective and lift my spirits.
- Reflecting on the situation and reframing my thoughts is another helpful technique; instead of fixating on the negative, I try to find lessons or growth opportunities.
- Journaling my feelings can be a powerful way to process emotions, while mindfulness practices like meditation or deep breathing help center my thoughts.
- Seeking support from trusted friends or a therapist can also provide relief and new insights.
- Lastly, if social media contributes to feelings of being ignored, I consider taking a break or curating my feed.
It’s important to remember that we’re all navigating these feelings at different points in our lives. I’d love to hear from you - how do you cope when you feel ignored or undervalued? What strategies or practices have helped you reclaim your sense of worth? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments! Your insights could really help others who may be going through similar struggles!
@EchoEce17
"Remember, our worth is not determined by others' attention or acknowledgment; it’s inherent and deserves to be recognized."
Love this and it's such a well written post :) <3 Again I kinda do the same things that you described to ground myself. Allowing yourself to just experience the discomfort without taking any rash actions can be hard as the immediate response is always one to have some reaction to justify what feels wrong. Distancing yourself from that situation can help think clearly and as you said it's always helpful to remind yourself that your worth is not based on someone else's actions towards you.
@BlueDarkAurora
I am glad you liked it and I am so happy that it can benefit the others out there. Also, it is great that you can ground yourself. Even when I do it, sometimes it gets difficult, but yeah, you only get stronger with time. You know?
I am thankful for your lovely response. And hope to seeing you around every week.
@EchoEce17 Aw same here <3 :)
Tell me how I can learn from
1.Dad timing me having a shower when I was 11 years old?
2. Dad treating me like Mom's sectary.. I feel by this point I should be getting paid by my Mom for this unoffical job and I need interest as well since I been doing this since I was 13.
3. Dad and Luna refusing to listen to me, when I told them I needed to have an early supper and I end up with a cheese sandwhich in 2017
4.a)Dad implied my snack would meet when we stopped for a snack at a theme park Dad took me too. b)Dad not understanding why I didn't want the brocclic that had came with the Seaside Shrimp trio (the server was supposed to ask what I wanted as a side). c)Dad caused me to run over an old woman's toe (had a bundle buggy) due to him rushing me to the train to get home.
5.Dad and Luna try to bully me into giving up the front seat on MY college graduation day and then Luna eat my last 2 Brocclic and cheese dinners and claim "there was nothing else in the house"?
6.Dad trying to give me banna with PB on it (I wanted a plain banna) said "fine get yourself more fat" and then Luna said later saying "You are chunky kiddo?" It took until 2021/2022 for Mom to finally say that neither of them should have said anything
7.Dad yelling at me saying "I never listen" when I picked up a pumpkin from a field trip to a farm and the pumpkin (which was free) Mom wanted because she had changed HER mind?
8.2014- Dad acusing me of "pinchhing/hitting someone and being univited" to the church's cast party and didn't believe me when I told him that wasn't true.
9.Dad thinking you could get a meal for a low as $5 in 2016. And then trying to bully me into taking my waterbottle with me to the mall with my program?
10. Dad bullying me onto a scale in 2016 when I didn't go to the gym (it was suppose to be snowing and I was suppose to walk both ways)
11.Dad implying my chili was bad ("not from a can") when I tried to have a surprise chilli on the Friday but Dad made chili for everyone on the Wed?
12 Dad throwing lettuce leaves across the counter saying "its a filthy counter next to a filith sink"?
13. Dad bossed me into making a salad on my first free Monday (I had been bowling for most of the year) in May he didn't ask he demanded
14.2016, 2018, and 2019 Dad talked about me to my doctors when I was in the room and I'm the patient?
15.July 2016, October 2019, and July 2021- Dad imply that someone would call 911 on me.
16. Dad being rude to a guest by not getting a veggie-only dish from our then-Chinese resturuant
17. Dad yelling at me for nothing to do with me/ Telling me to throw Mom's cake in the trash/
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tell me what can I learn from those things?
and also my Mom is tired of me polishing about these all the time as well
@Disneywoman
Hey there, I am so sorry for the late response. I was away for some personal reasons. It sounds like you’re going through a challenging time, and I want to acknowledge that. I am so sorry that you have to go through all of it.
If you’d like to discuss this in more detail or just need someone to listen, please feel free to connect with me. I’d be happy to have a private chat whenever you’re ready. I’m here to support you.
@EchoEce17 Thanks I was away today on a day-trip to see a play
@Disneywoman
That's great. I hope it was a wholesome and a jovial experience for you.
@EchoEce17 was very disappointed in the play. (Wendy and Peter Pan)
@Disneywoman
I'm so sorry you had that experience. What went wrong in it? Was it an enacted play by adults or the kids?
@EchoEce17 It was a play for children. But it wasn't true to the 1904 original story. The play was called "Wendy and Peter" (ie Peter Pan). The 1904 story is about "how everyone needs mothers" - the Lost Boys need Mothers, the Pirates need mothers, etc. But yet 1.They add a 4th Darling child to the story, to be Wendy's McGuffin (aka plot device) to go to Neverland because the 4th child dies. But in the OG story the Plot device is that Wendy doesn't want to grow up. The other two Darling children don't know who Peter Pan or Neverland is. And the 4th Darling child makes Wendy so distracted...that she's not paying attention to "playing mother" despite the Peter and the Lost boys (and the other 2 Darling children)- asking her to make breakfast. In the battle scene Peter Pan becomes a Dude in Distress. Not him at all.